No card, no cake, nothing organised by the children (7&5). He presented me with an umbrella complete with pricetag and shopped for and cooked a meal on the day. I cleared up.
A week earlier he had left out as a surprise some flowers and a necklace in a hotel where I was staying on a rare trip away -he did n't want to come, whilst he looked after the kids at home.
I work hard for my family. AIBU in thinking he could have made more of an effort on the day.
For his 40 th we went away, his idea, with lots of friends, champagne, spa, and I did a surprise photograph thing marking the milestones of his life.