wedding save the date... described as plus one

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Postinga problem a friend asked here... So dont have any further details.

Shes been with her dp for 2 years and they are now moving in togetherr... All their friends know theyve been together that long and all of her dps friendd have all met her at least a couple of times.

Her dp has a friend grting married next year and the engaged couope, along wih a number of her dps other friends, visited her dp for a night out just 3 weeks ago. Obviously she was present and the engaged couple even went round to my friends flat to get changed. I think he one significant event of that night that should be taken into account was the engaged girl having a go at my friend totally out of the blue on a train as she discovered that they were from the same town, but my friend has left for a high flying job in london. Apparently she went into some rant about hating people who get a leg up there and then leave and slag ot off. Friendleft at 16 so its not even relevant as an argument and apparently there was no basis for the attack anyway. Girlwas all sweetness and light next morning.

This week, her dp recieved a save the date card for their wedding. On the back it said "DP + 1". Shes a little 1. Confused as to why she wouldnt have been named if it was necessary to write it at all and 2. Upset given that its been two years and shes met them a few times. She seems to see it as someone arbitrarily deeming her relationship short term or doomed.

I dont know what to think. It does seem bizzare. What do you think?

Surely you buy one gift as a couple, so your being invited wouldn't have increased the number of gifts, just cost them money in terms of catering.

Thanks guys. I think its a bit obvious thy didnt forgt her name as theyd seen her just 3 weeks before. If they did forget her name after that its even more rude!

I get what someone said about them not living together yet but what gives someone the right to judge whether someone elses relationship will last?

Have told friend its likely it was written by a parent. Seems to have made feel better so thanks all!

Her DP is the engaged couple's friend and he is the invitee - your friend is not and she is almost certainly over-thinking it.

Maybe they forgot her name... maybe they didn't want to invite her 'by name' only to find that her DP had broken up with her (it happens)... maybe they just don't like her... it really doesn't matter.

I agree with olathe. She's overthinking it and being sensitive. Her DP is the friend of the engaged couple. They don't live together. It went to his home.

The exact same thing happened to me with a wedding DP and I went to a few weeks ago- did I get annoyed or chalk it up to the bride being "jealous", or rude? No. Because invitation writing is bloody dull, she probably either delegated the task or couldn't remember my name and just wanted to get it over with as quickly as possible. Non issue.