Are the neighbours unreasonable?

[LilQueenie]

A similar thread below made me think about our situation. 2 bought houses. New neighbours move in and a note through door asks if we would consider cutting our trees to maximise the light they will have in their garden. Bearing in mind they were on holiday during the sunny times we had. They even said they would help. I overheard them in the garden getting estimates for planning to build an extension. Obviously this will take up more space and light in their garden. Are they unreasonable to expect us to change our garden to suit them. They bought the house knowing where the trees were.

They asked, and didn't demand.

My NDNs built a new patio under the shade of my tree (just why???) They asked if I would mind if they paid for a tree surgeon to remove the tree. I wasn't fond of it, so I didn't mind, as they were paying.

You do not have to comply or acquiesce to their enquiry

It's not unreasonable of them to ask you to chop your trees, particularly if they have offered to pay.

It's also not unreasonable of them to build an extension. I'm not sure why you think there is a link between the two though .

They only asked - are you fond of your trees? or would it actually be quite nice if someone else paid for a professional pruner/tree remover to come and "sort them out" so to speak?
You can always tell them that if they pay for someone reputable to come, you will let them trim/prune/remove the trees.

God I hate the note through the door. If they want you to do something, then let them knock on your door and talk like proper humans. So they lack social skills already.

I realise this wasn't your question. Yes, TABU to expect you'll chop your trees. Pop a note through their door about how you would, you really would, but you're Druid and the trees are sacred and it's against your religion.

Unless you're happy to chop the trees, in which case let them pay for it.

We have the trees for privacy. However DP silly twat chopped one pine tree a bit and it looks stupid. Totally flat across the top. We will trim one slightly but only because its in the way of phone cables. I just think its a bit rude to expect us to accomodate them. If I was house hunting I would take into consideration that trees were in the neighbouring garden. I mean you wouldnt start asking the council to chop down trees in the street to suit you would you? The area they want the extension is going to block light into their garden so I thought it a bit rude that they block it in their own space and expect us to change ours to suit. The trees are not along their wall at all. They are at the back of ours so not even touching an ajoining wall.

They aren't expecting, they are asking. No harm in that.n

Not rude. Politely decline or politely accept. In person. No notes.

I think they are being unreasonable to put a note through your door instead of asking like normal human beings and I think they are being cheeky asking but I suppose it was worth asking on the off chance. In this case, if they were my trees, I would say no because I like trees. And if I didn't like trees, id still say no because they asked with a note and I hate notes when talking would do.