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To not want to wrap dds in cotton wool

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pouffepants · 01/06/2013 19:35

Dd2 is almost 7. She has ridden a scooter for about 4 years.

I took the girls out on their scooters just now, and inexplicably the front wheel jammed and she flew off, and she now has bleeding knees. That's one of those things, right?

Except dh has flown off the handle now about the fact she should have had knee pads on. This is a frequent hobby horse of his, but a) he has never attempted to get some and b) his other frequent hobby horse, is complaining that kids are so mollycoddled and feeble nowadays.

I always make the kids wear helmets on their bikes, but beyond that I'm really not messing around every time they ride their scooters into the village. He says I won't do anything until one's in a coma. And has then reminded me that his friend's brother was killed on his bike and he cares for someone who was knocked off their bike and has a brain injury.

Over-reacting much?? We were on the pavement of a cul-de-sac when it happened.

I'm getting pretty sick of this, he's the world's worst helicopter parent with dd2 especially and is there ready to catch when she's on a climbing frame. Or suggests that even with helmets and pads, they should really only ride bikes on grass or the beach.

This is a bloke who frequently reminds us of his idyllic upbringing in the back streets of Harpurhey.

And now he's basically told the girls that scooters are just too dangerous, and told me I'm a crap mum for letting them ride them, let alone without safety gear. FFS!!

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pouffepants · 02/06/2013 14:38

If I offered to roll her up in a duvet, I reckon he'd probably go for it!

The thing is he always expects me to do the protective stuff. So he keeps moaning at me to get pads and gates and stuff, but never gets any himself (thankfully). But then I get moaned at whenever something very minor happens.

He wanted to take dd2 to the doctor's for her clumsiness. I said I didn't think she was especially clumsy, but if he wants to take her, then feel free, he doesn't need to ask me. I would LOVE a doctor to tell him she's completely normal. But he won't take her, just mutters that there must be something wrong.

Whereas I took her to the doctor's because I found blood in her poo and he said i was overreacting!

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Jinsei · 02/06/2013 14:38

Of course he is BU, but he might not be able to help it. :( I find it very hard to let dd take "normal" risks and I tend to be naturally very over-protective. This is something that I have to fight against, as I know it isn't good for her and I don't want her to live a life filled with fear, but it can be a challenge to put my anxiety to one side. I feel sick sometimes, just watching her do ordinary childhood stuff. DH tends to be a bit over-protective too, so I try to make sure that she does lots of fun, outdoorsy stuff with other people when we're not around. Blush

Stand your ground, OP, because the children have a eight to a normal childhood, but don't be too hard on your DH. He probably can't help but see things in terms of potential risks and hazards. It's a horrible way to live.

Jinsei · 02/06/2013 14:40

Right, not eight!

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