AIBU to not want to be in the same room?

[picklepen]

So, I'm 22wks into 1st successful pregnancy. 2d ago a work friend colleague asked me what I thought about the bump on her head (just asking for an un-official, non-medical opinion...)
Then told me she had a pain down the side of her face. And I could see (from close quarters) she had a rash under her hair.
So I said it looked like shingles. And she replied that that was what she thought it was.
Oh, I'm still fuming...

Last night she phoned me to say she'd been to her GP and that she does have shingles. And that she was very surprised when he told her that yes, you can get chickenpox from shingles, and that she should make sure both of her pregnant co-workers have had chickenpox. I would have had to have had direct contact though.
So I reminded her that I HAD. I'd looked at her head.

She didn't phone me until after my GPs had closed for the weekend, and I don't know if I've had it. I know I've had measles and mumps. Also she wasn't going to phone the other pregnant lady until after the weekend "because she didn't want to cause a panic".

DH has brought me down from the rafters, but I'm struggling to know what I say when I next see her. Despite my pleading with her on the phone to stay away from work, she told me she was going to see how she felt. I don't think she gets this at all! She wanted to stay on the phone and chat about my scan and baby names- all I wanted to do was slam the phone down!

So is it me? Am I being overly pregnant sensitive? Is it normal behaviour to subject your co-workers with infectious diseases?

cloudsandtrees your comment hit the nail on the head about who should stay off.

The other person does not have to unless she is in a contact job -- why should she lose money, have her sickness record affected etc unless she is ill.

The op is not sick and can not therefore take sick leave under the pregnancy related theme. May lose money as well. Or have to use her annual leave.

A very difficult situation all round.

I was in contact with cp while pregnant. I worried myself silly but all the googling I did pointed me to evidence that cp is most dangerous in first trimester and the last few weeks of pg. You are not in either of these groups so even if you do catch it you will more than likely be fine. Hope you can rest a little more easy x

Shingles can give you CP, but as the NHS website points out, it takes direct contact with the blisters. If they are covered, the risk is vanishingly small.

Just to update and finish- I have had by immunity levels tested and the midwife called to give me the results: I am not in danger of catching chickenpox or shingles.
And I have calmed down. Thanks for all the advice. I accept I went a bit overboard.

That's great news pickle

Shingles is much less contagious than chickenpox

Glad you're going to be fine

That's good news. Is your colleague back at work?

S&F: yes, but was very very sorry for having been thoughtless and keeping well clear. She's on antiviral medication and looks a lot better.