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My awful parenting decisions (according to MIL)

38 replies

dogdaysareover · 31/05/2013 22:51

I would like to begin this by saying it's a lighthearted thread. But it isn't. I am fucked off. So far I have:

  1. Breastfed ("digusting")
  2. Breastfed on demand (worse)
  3. Breastfed in public (worst yet)
  4. Am still bfeeding 22 months later (apoplexy)
  5. Co-slept
  6. Not given ds a dummy
  7. Not left ds in his pram outside to cry. This would apparently "teach him"
  8. Not left ds to cry himself to sleep at night
  9. Not left ds laying on his back when he had reflux to choke on his own acid and instead carried him in a sling
10. Not sent ds to a nursery. He goes to a wonderful cm three days a week but this will apparently not socialise him 11. Allowed ds to feed himself. With cutlery (plastic) 12. Not cut ds's hair much 13. And bizarrely, yesterday, allowed ds to leave the house without a hat. Its May fgs.

This is not a stealth attack on any of the above practices. We are parents who make decisions based on what suits us/our individual child. I don't care if anyone does or doesnt do any of the above but just sick to fucking death of being told what a shameful parent I am/how spolied ds will be/how I have made a rod/created a monster. Ad infinitum.

Sil has followed mil's advice to a tee and she has, according to dh's family created the prefect child. Oh dfod.

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SmiteYouWithThunderbolts · 31/05/2013 22:52

Is your MIL my MIL? Grin We had to stay with them for a month recently (long story). The big vein in my head spent a lot of time pulsing with rage...

dogdaysareover · 31/05/2013 22:53

*perfect child. But dn will probably become a prefect in years to come and thus hand mil yet another stick to beat me with.

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WouldBeHarrietVane · 31/05/2013 22:53

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IneedAyoniNickname · 31/05/2013 22:53

Anything I did was wrong according to my (thankfully ex) mil. Even when sil did the same things with her dc i was still wrong!

LynetteScavo · 31/05/2013 22:54

My MIL probably thinks the same, but wouldn't be so rude as to voice her opinions.

You must be a very placid person for your MIL to still be alive. I would have probably strangled her by now. (My MIL probably knows, this, which is why sh'e kept quite. Grin)

TheUnsinkableTitanic · 31/05/2013 22:56

do you have to spend a lot of time in her company?

that would drive me scatty (listening to all that drivel)

dogdaysareover · 31/05/2013 22:57

Harriet thanks for the support cos it sure as hell is a rarity in my life!

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propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS · 31/05/2013 22:58

I always post on mil fron hell threads urging dils to liberally apply the phrase 'fuck off' . Put the stupid cow back in her box and if she does not back off and bow down then go all out for estrangement.
HTH Grin

AgentZigzag · 31/05/2013 22:58

Have you ever told her, ever so pleasantly, to shut her fucking cake hole?

PoppyWearer · 31/05/2013 23:00

I did all of that too. SIL did what MIL thought best (the opposite).

WouldBeHarrietVane · 31/05/2013 23:01

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Maryz · 31/05/2013 23:02

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raisah · 31/05/2013 23:03

What's wrong with these stupid women who turn into monsters as soon as they become MILs & GMs? I hope I don't become an interfering old bat when I become a MIL. I.probably will though!

Mitzyme · 31/05/2013 23:10

Sick to TBT with MIL threads.

FirstStopCafe · 31/05/2013 23:11

Sounds very similar to my mil but my son is only 3 months old. I'm 'cruel' for breastfeeding him, giving in to him by cuddling him when he cries and need to ensure I don't make a 'show of myself' when feeding in public.

You have my sympathies

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flanbase · 31/05/2013 23:14

I did once see a knitted hat that looked like a breast - I recommend this as a useful wardrobe addition for your ds

Mitzyme · 31/05/2013 23:15

Okay I would except my DS, DD and DGD loved their dummy!

Maryz · 31/05/2013 23:15

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flanbase · 31/05/2013 23:18

does she knit? www.aknittingblog.com/2012/02/knitted-nipplebreast-hats-round-up.html

PoppyWearer · 31/05/2013 23:19

Things improve once your DCs are old enough to tell Grandma that she's wrong. [evilgrin]

I love my DD...

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Babyroobs · 01/06/2013 00:24

I've done every one of those things too with all four of mine, even bf my youngest longer . They have all turned out fine so far ( eldest is 14). Just ignore her , stay calm and carry on .

Startail · 01/06/2013 00:43

Oh dear! your MIL and me wouldn't get on. Apart from not getting on with slings and not needing child care, I've broken all her rules.

I continued to break the no BFing one for a great many years, oops.

BeyonceCastle · 01/06/2013 08:46

Well i did 12/13 of those with DC1 and full house with DC2 and both my
monsters kids have turned out okay. Wink
We are either both awful OP or you can rest assured that we are in fact
amazing suck it up MIL