To be annoyed with dh at the pub???

[MarilynMoanroe]

Dh not been in touch this eve, which he usually texts me with what train he is on.

Finally I got a text to say he has worked late and now having a beer with the "big boss".

So that's Friday night written off. I was looking forward to spending time with him.

Aibu?

My apologies for not giving a fuller picture with my initial post.

Well I think YANBU, as he could have spared ten seconds at the end of the normal working day to say he would be working late tonight and then maybe with the boss, and then at least you would have known from the start. It's just considerate.

Also, agree with MissS that you don't have to run him anywhere. Tell him the walk will do him good.

It does sound like this is a bit of a pattern. Have you told him you're really getting hacked off with this?

I think he drinks way too much, although he'll deny this. I just don't understand why he has to drink to the point of throwing up/not coming home.

His dad died suddenly at home last year, and was found 4 days later by concerned neighbours. He had fallen out with his dad a few weeks previously and I think he uses drink to deal with how he is feeling. He feels guilty that they last spoke on bad terms.

And there you have it.
He needs to address that grief / guilt.
Hope things improve MM.
Not sure AIBU is the right place for this one.

Well, I've gone from thinking FHS, let the man go for a beer to "hmm.... that sounds like more of a problem."

YANBU but there are obviously issues to consider.

YABU If a bigwig in the company you work for invites you for a drink, it would be most unwise to decline IMO.

Right, then he needs to talk through his feelings about his dad's death with someone so that it isn't you who effectively cops the flack and so that he can lay it to rest a bit.

Did he do this a bit before his dad's death and now it's escalated, or is it a totally new thing?

He has always enjoyed a drink, but it does kind of coincide with his dad's death, with him drinking too much too often. He doesn't really speak about his dad now, and he closes up if I mention his passing.

Thanks for your advice.