To be annoyed with dh at the pub???

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MarilynMoanroe · 31/05/2013 21:07

Dh not been in touch this eve, which he usually texts me with what train he is on.

Finally I got a text to say he has worked late and now having a beer with the "big boss".

So that's Friday night written off. I was looking forward to spending time with him.

Aibu?

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Shakey1500 · 31/05/2013 21:10

If it's out of character then I'd probably let it go. Perhaps he's networking having worked late and would have been rude to refuse a senior manager etc?

Did you have plans to go out together?

saulaboutme · 31/05/2013 21:17

It's disappointing when you're waiting for someone to come home and they make other plans.
Don't waste your evening, can you meet a friend for a drink, or get a bottle and watch your favourite film?
If he makes a habit of it you should talk to him.

Sirzy · 31/05/2013 21:17

had you planned anything together?

TidyDancer · 31/05/2013 21:18

Yeah, had you actually planned anything, and/or told him you wanted to spend the evening with him?

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MarilynMoanroe · 31/05/2013 21:28

Sorry ladies I've somehow managed to post 3 identical threads. Not sure if they can be merged?

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Sparrowlegs248 · 31/05/2013 22:05

I don't think yabu. He could have let you know sooner surely? Doesn't take long to send a text.

BriansBrain · 31/05/2013 22:08

It's just manners to let someone waiting for you know you are working late and then plans after that.

Is this usual for him?

LeaveTheBastid · 31/05/2013 22:12

So he's worked all week, and late today, and is now having a beer?

YABU.

Unless you specifically had something planned and not just you wanting to be in the same air space as him then I mean this more politely than it will read - get over yourself. He could have let you know earlier but he didn't, and unless its a regular occurrence then just let it go as a miscommunication by you both. Pick your battles and all that.

Charlesroi · 31/05/2013 22:12

You have to do these things sometimes (it's not fun, generally). Have a nice comfy evening on your own, don't wait up and make plans for Sunday.

wheredidiputit · 31/05/2013 22:23

YABU.

Although I might be being unreasonable as DH had been on holiday this week and normally goes to the pub on a Friday but this week he's not.

Whoknowswhocares · 31/05/2013 23:09

As a courtesy he should have text and told you he was going to be late. But seeing as you had no particular plans yabu to be annoyed.
Surely an impromptu drink after a long, hard week is not too much to ask occasionally, is it?

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