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AIBU?

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To be jealous...?

11 replies

SteamPink · 31/05/2013 17:15

DP and I have been together two years, both live in mixed sex shared houses, and are generally happy together. Main problem is that he hates his job (but doesn't spend much time looking for another one), so most evenings after work he's in a depressed mood.

The one thing he does talk about positively though, is his female housemate. Literally, some evenings the only positive things he says are about her. She's beautiful, young and fun. I like her too. But AIBU to tell him to stop being so jeffing miserable and to stop fawning over her constantly?

It's really starting to piss me off but I think if I bring it up I'll sound like a sour old cow.

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Locketjuice · 31/05/2013 17:17

If its pissing you off I would just come out with it Smile

thebody · 31/05/2013 17:20

He sounds a delightful catch.

SteamPink · 31/05/2013 17:21

I am not sure how to phrase it. "Would you mind not talking about her so much?" sounds a bit... Bad. But his only conversation topics seem to be self-pity and her...

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SteamPink · 31/05/2013 17:22

I am hoping it's a phase thebody

Before he got this job he was perfectly verbose.

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Locketjuice · 31/05/2013 17:44

I would just wait for him to start talking about and in my most mature voice say 'blah blah fucking blah Smile'

thebody · 31/05/2013 17:48

But he's a moody arse who constantly praises another woman to your face?

Definatly action required steam.

Buzzardbird · 31/05/2013 17:57

Next time he starts just say in a really unemotional voice "wow, you talk about her a . Lot.". And then carry on as normal...no discussion required.

LittleMissLucy · 31/05/2013 18:02

He fancies her and lives in the same house. You're in for some major trouble. Seen it before.

AnyFucker · 31/05/2013 18:05

A moody bloke that moans at you but praises another woman ?

He's a keeper

dyslexicdespot · 31/05/2013 18:06

I would be very up front with him about your feelings. Not just in relation to his room mate but also about his unhappiness at work and the fact that he is not trying to get a new job.

He is doing something on a regular basis that is making you uncomfortable and unhappy. If he continues after you talk to him about it, I would seriously consider running for the hills!

Doubtfuldaphne · 31/05/2013 18:15

In a healthy relationship you'd be able to talk openly about stuff if it annoys you. I know it's awkward sometimes but it really important to tell him and his reaction will probably be denial but if he apologises and looks embarrassed and doesn't bring her up again then I think youve got your answer.
Help him look for jobs and say its important because you don't want a miserable dp. That should hopefully make him see sense and stop taking you for granted

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