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To want to call 101 about loitering teenagers?

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K8eee · 30/05/2013 21:09

So for the past half an hour I can hear and see some teenagers loitering at the end of our road. A kid on a moped keeps riding back and forth which is noisy and to be honest they're pissing me off already and it's not even dark or that late. We have my 6 year old dss staying with us too, who obviously will be in bed soon, but they're so god damn noisy!

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TinBox · 30/05/2013 23:41

Yes, K8e - because there are so many jobs available right now. Local businesses are just falling over themselves to give part time work to unqualified teenagers in the middle of a recession.

MadameDefarge · 30/05/2013 23:53

It does depend tig. Generally on the amount of drugs they have taken. Being high, paranoid can make kids very twitchy...and if they carry knives, as many do...(certainly where I live) it can get quickly out of hand if you don't know how to approach with caution.

Eg. I was in my local tesco the other day, a lad had nicked a drink, got caught...he was kicking off verbally (usual for around here) but it was pretty much under control..then his mate got a bottle and started and started threatening the security men. It changes then. He mate left, but this lad was left on an adrenalin high with security guards also now on an adrenelin high..it was looking pretty nasty.... they took him to the back of the store. I could see he was twitching and about to explode so I waved at him and asked him if he wanted me in there. They let me in and I could see he was not managing at all...and it could have got really nasty. too much testosterone flying about. I saw he was about to cry and just walked in and hugged him. and said don't worry i'm here and I will stay with you. As an appropriate adult.

maybe people would have thought he should get whats coming to him as a shoplifter. but it turned out he was a minor. living in a hostel and had been reported missing. the last thing he needed was another thing on his sheet. A hug and an arm around him while he talked to the police did the trick. the store simply banned him and the police took him back to the hostel. He did try the old nonsense, but I laughed and said he was a rubbish shop lifter and he should stick to football and he smiled. Result. ten minutes before he was on the verge of committing gbh. Disaster for him.

was I wrong? I don't think so. It all got resolved. But there are some situations when I would simply call the police. no question.

BreconBeBuggered · 30/05/2013 23:55

You need to chill out, for your own sanity. I say this from the perspective of of living near youngsters who hang around outside my house and do sometimes cause trouble that necessitates ringing 101. If you spend your life waiting for it to happen every time you see a group of teenagers, you'll give yourself no peace.

MadameDefarge · 31/05/2013 00:00

Absolutely Brecon. Pick your battles.

Alisvolatpropiis · 31/05/2013 00:03

Part time jobs are not as easy to come by as they were when you were their age. Hell they're not even as easy to come by as when I was their age less than 10 years ago! Besides young people are allowed to have fun sometimes.

I'm sure they were very irritating,I would probably have found them irritating myself. But calling 101 about a group of bored kids would have been way over the top. They wee being irritating,they weren't hurting anybody. Loitering teens is hardly a new phenomenon is it?

MadameDefarge · 31/05/2013 00:05

it does depend ali. If they do it every night when you trying to get your kids to bed it can drive you round the bend. Then the best thing is to call the police and talk to the safer neighbourhood team. Don't engage with them.

BackforGood · 31/05/2013 00:13

The more you post K8eee, the more ridiculous you are sounding.
Even if you are in the heart of some kind of a gang land area, as others have said, even hardened street gangs, who do actually carry weapons are not interested in a woman politely asking them if they'd mind moving on or keeping the noise down. As you didn't mention you ar in the middle of a gang area to begin with though, even that part is particularly unlikely.

It's half term. Teens want to meet their friends and 'hang out'. Shock horror!

MadameDefarge · 31/05/2013 00:18

oh back, I'm sorry. But you clearly don't live where I do. It is much much more complicated than that. You think a gaggle of young kids take kindly to a a possibly white middle aged woman descending on them asking them politely to move on? You think the tug their forelocks and move on?
You are much more likely to be called a fat white bitch and to fuck off...

moiner · 31/05/2013 00:51

What exactly would you like the police to do? They are not do anything illegal and whilst it might be annoying its not a police matter.

MadameDefarge · 31/05/2013 00:58

actually moiner it is. causing distress to another is a public order offence.

MadameDefarge · 31/05/2013 01:01

Section 5.

MadameDefarge · 31/05/2013 01:05

I think you seriously underestimate the powers of the police to prevent a public gathering that creates public disorder and distress.

An issue that i can take exception to in other circumstances.

BackforGood · 31/05/2013 11:22

I'd say there is a big difference between being able to see and hear some teenagers loitering at the end of your road, and "a public gathering that creates public disorder and distress."

Flobbadobs · 31/05/2013 11:27

If you ask a group of teenagers to keep it down and mind their language they generally will ime. In fact not that long ago a lad ina big group told his mates to stop swearing and move so I could get past them with the buggy.. Ok what he actually said was "that lady's got a baby there stop fucking swearing and move you blind twat!" To his mate but I got the idea and it was a nice feature .
They are kids not monsters. Did you never loiter?
YABU unless they are being threatening in some way.

Flobbadobs · 31/05/2013 11:27

Feature? Gesture!!

teenagetantrums · 31/05/2013 12:10

Teenagers really just don't realise how loud they are , its as simple as that, I have two they are good kids most of the time just bloody inconsiderate and self cantered. I find if you just go and ask them move on/keep it down with a valid reason like child trying to sleep they will, be confident though they jump on any sign of weakness when there are lots of them.

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