AIBU?
To think dh can make his own bloody dinner?
Ashoething · 30/05/2013 19:06
I am a sahm to 3 young dcs.Dh works.I cook dinner every single night.At the moment we are having work done in the house including a whole new bathroom. Our house is tiny and we only have 1 toilet.I have been trying to keep dcs out of house as much as possible and to this end decided to get a chippy tea.Dh now has a narky face and said he doesnt want "old" chips for his dinner.Aibu to think he is a fucking twat who can make his own dinner from now on?
HappyAsASandboy · 30/05/2013 19:12
The strength of feeling might be a bit OTT, but you're right that he can eat the 'old' chips or make something else himself.
In my house I will make DH something if I make myself something more than soup and toast. If I have soup and toast or nothing, then DH makes his own or doesn't eat. If I make dinner then he reheats it when he gets in.
Basically, I wouldn't make myself dinner without making him some too, but DHs are not supposed to make extra work, so he only gets a dinner made if I'm making one for me anyway.
DCs get fed every night, before anyone asks! It's just that they have their main meal at lunchtime, so have scrambled eggs on toast or similar for their tea.
SweetSeraphim · 30/05/2013 20:11
Right. Here is what I would do.
Pick a time that you can be alone to talk. Sit him down and MAKE him listen to you. Tell him that you are not his servant, and that chores in the house are to be shared. That you don't clean up another adults shit, and just because you are a sahm, this doesn't mean that you're there to skivvy after him.
If he gets angry, leave him to it. He'll still think about what you've said, even if he doesn't admit it.
Just don't put up with it, OP. Life really is too short.
MissStrawberry · 30/05/2013 20:46
Do not allow him to make you feel like shit.
He takes you for granted as he has had the life of riley and you have done everything for him. You are his wife, not his unpaid servant so you need to talk to him.
If he can't pour bleach down the loo, or thinks it isn't his job too, then you have bigger problems than having to make another tea.
DreamingOfTheMaldives · 30/05/2013 20:59
I wouldn't be impressed if someone bought me sausage and chips an hour before I was home to eat them, I'd rather you told me to get something myself on the way home. That said, he does sound like a moany arse and that he treats you like his servant. I'm not surprised you're fed up OP.
Think he needs a serious metaphorical kick up the arse!
spanky2 · 30/05/2013 21:08
I would reheat it in the oven . I would like that for tea. He doesn't need to be rude about it. My dh told me "Well with what have you done all day?" I told him "obviously not any housework ! " Then glared at him. I think they get used to a certain level of care.
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