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AIBU to want the car seat since they don't use it?

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WeAreEternal · 30/05/2013 18:34

DS is six, he used to have a group 1&2 car seat in my parents car, which he got a bit big for, so last year I bought a group 2+ car seat for their car.
At the time he went in my mums car a lot, they primarily used my mums car as she had the 'every day car'.

In November of last year my parents moved house, they now live further away, and as a result we have gone from seeing them several times a week to seeing them once a week, the also now always come to us, where as we used to go to them or go out somewhere together, bother or which we now rarely do.

My dad also bought a new car at Christmas, which they now use as their primary car.
As the car seat is in my mums car and they can't be bothered to switch it into my dads car if we go out in their car I either have to put my own car seat in their car or DS doesn't have a seat at all (which I find unacceptable).

I suggested that since DS hasn't used the seat in my mums car since last year I may as well have it for my car or a spare or to sell, as it is much better than the one I have, but they didn't seem to like this idea.

AIBU to think that since they don't bother to use it for DS then I should be able to claim back the carseat that I bought?

It wasn't a gift by the way, i had hoped they would buy him one themselves but when they didn't I saw that one on offer and just bought it.

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TidyDancer · 30/05/2013 18:41

What reason did they give for not wanting to give it up?


Corkyandviolet · 30/05/2013 18:41

Of course you should take it back - it's yours! Why don't they like the idea of giving it back, what's the problem?


mikkii · 30/05/2013 18:42

I don't think you ate being unreasonable. Can you fabricate tell your mum about a forthcoming play date and the need to "borrow" the other seat next time you go to them?


BerthaTheBogCleaner · 30/05/2013 18:43

Mum, I'd like my carseat back please. Can you bring it next time you come? Thanks.

Job done.

When you say "they didn't seem to like this idea" - what did they say? What do they want it for?


voucherprocon · 30/05/2013 19:02

Mum, I'd like my carseat back please. Can you bring it next time you come? Thanks.

This^. It's yours, get it back. Or have they loaned it to someone, and are making excuses?


WeAreEternal · 30/05/2013 19:03

They didn't actually give a reason or excuse, I just suggested that maybe they could give me it and my dad said "but you have a carseat, and a booster seat in [DPs] car, you don't need it" when I brought it up again another time he just said that he didn't see why I wanted it and them changed the subject. I got the distinct impression that they don't want to give me it. Which then made me wonder it I was BU wanting it.

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voucherprocon · 30/05/2013 19:50

Next time you are over there, just ask them for it. Make sure it's a time when your are all just sitting around and have 10 minutes spare, ask for their car keys and go and get it yourself.


fryingpantoface · 30/05/2013 19:52

Next time you are over there, just ask them for it. Make sure it's a time when your are all just sitting around and have 10 minutes spare, ask for their car keys and go and get it yourself.



specialsubject · 30/05/2013 19:53

and naturally no car seat at all is not only unacceptable but illegal.


GoingUpInTheWorld · 30/05/2013 19:59

Who paid for it?


quietbatperson · 30/05/2013 20:09

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foreverondiet · 30/05/2013 20:17

Well he is 6 so can use a booster cushion for short occasional journeys. So buy a cheap one and next time you are there swap the seats round.


foreverondiet · 30/05/2013 20:19

And also I would not be happy with no seat at all, aged 6. But don't know why you posting - just go round and change it - say - I bought you a lightweight booster as it will be much easier for you to move between cars and DS is still below 140cm so illegal to drive him around with no seat at all. And then swap it.


BerthaTheBogCleaner · 30/05/2013 20:25

Try "I want it because it is mine. Why do you want it?".

I think Quietbatperson has it - they've sold/lost/damaged it.


Alwayscheerful · 30/05/2013 20:28

Do your have parents have any more DGCs? Do you think they are using the seat for other children?


FrequentFlyerRandomDent · 30/05/2013 20:33

I was going to say the same as quietbatperson.


WeAreEternal · 30/05/2013 21:06

I don't think they would give it away, and they are not the type of people to hide if it had been damaged.

They do have other grandchildren, but none of an age that they could be safely using a group 2+ seat.

They do have a booster, that is for my niece, that they could also easily use for DS, but they choose not to put that in DF's car either.

As I said we don't regularly go to their new house, I've been three times since the moved, and they were on special occasions, it's just more convenient in many ways for them to come here. So just getting it isn't really an option, I need them to bring it to me.

I will clearly ask for them to bring it this weekend when I speak to them tomorrow.

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FrequentFlyerRandomDent · 31/05/2013 11:53

Good luck.

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