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To feel so so so sorry for this woman? (Poo related - sorry!)

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FiveSugarsPlease · 30/05/2013 16:46

Just back from the supermarket with dd.

While we were there, I took her to the shop's toilet. There's only 3 tiny cubicles. I put dd in one and stood outside with my hand in the door. Two young women came in and waited behind me on one of the cubicles freeing up. A woman in her mid-twenties came out of the large/disabled one and squeezed by to wash her hands. The two young women both went in the large cubicle.

As soon as they got in they exclaimed, "OMG, it's stinking in here!", "There's shit all over the seat", "I'm going to be sick" "Some people have no shame" etc etc.

Meanwhile, the woman who had just used that toilet continued to wash her hands - her face scarlet, eyes welling up - hearing every word!

I know I should have said something, but what? All I could do was mutter 'Hurry up, DD, we need to go', pretending I couldn't hear the two women in the large toilet.

Why would they do that so loudly? Did they intend to hurt that woman's feelings?

I could understand children doing it (my dd is terrible for it!), but not adults.

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SmellsLikeVosene · 30/05/2013 16:48

The lady could have perhaps cleaned the toilet up after herself, though there is nothing you can do about the smell, they were rude there.

HeySoulSister · 30/05/2013 16:48

Hurt her feelings? But why the hell leave a mess to start with?

Gigondas · 30/05/2013 16:48

Hm they were bu to be so direct but if toilet really was left in a filthy state so was woman before (very unreasonable to comment on smell but not dirt).

Boomba · 30/05/2013 16:49

Um.....but, if the woman left shit all over the seat, they had a point?

CelticPixie · 30/05/2013 16:50

Why did she shit all over the seat and not clean it up?

Hassled · 30/05/2013 16:54

Yes the women needn't have been quite so strident, but if she did leave shit all over the seat then she should have cleared it up.

Someone at work (and I don't yet know who) leaves a pleasant scattergun of shit effect over the loo on a regular basis - fair enough that she can't control what happens, but how she can just saunter out and leave it there is beyond me. How anyone can just leave their shit is beyond me.

LeaveTheBastid · 30/05/2013 16:54

I doubt the shit was on the seat, probably on the inside of the toilet and its just rude women being dramatic. But still, it must have stunk, and if I was in her position I'd have come out of the cubicle and said "you might want to give that one a miss!" And laughed it off, especially if I was going to stick around to wash my hands and hear people boaking.

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FiveSugarsPlease · 30/05/2013 16:54

Well, I didn't actually see the state of the toilet myself, so not sure whether or not they were exaggerating.

But even if there was 'shit all over the seat', I would have either discreetly asked the woman to come back in and clean it, or I'd have came back out of the cubicle and waited on the next one freeing up.

As I say, it was a disabled toilet so the woman could very well have had a disability that affects her personal hygiene/sight whatever.

But even if she wasn't disabled, there's no reason to be so rude or shriek and giggle with your friend about someone standing five feet from you.

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Madamecastafiore · 30/05/2013 16:55

Unless the lady had no arms then leaving shit all over the seat is dirty and rude.

TheCrackFox · 30/05/2013 16:56

How considerate of her to leave her shite for the minimum wage cleaner to wipe up.

HeySoulSister · 30/05/2013 16:56

You would really have asked her to go back and clean it op?

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FiveSugarsPlease · 30/05/2013 16:57

My dd is really sensitive to strong smells, so I've found myself in many instances like this. I'll tell her to 'shush', but if she still refuses to pee in affected toilet, we'll go back outside and wait on the next one and I always feel as though I ought to point out to everyone waiting outside that the smell/stains were there before us - we didn't create them.

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FiveSugarsPlease · 30/05/2013 16:59

Absolutely. If it was genuinely shit splattered all over the actual seat - not the bowl - I'd have came out and said, "excuse me, but would you mind giving that a wipe or something? No one else will be able to use that just now."

It's never had to happen before though, so that's just what I think i'd say. More likely, i'd just stand back outside, wait on the next toilet, and warn people not to use it.

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Boomba · 30/05/2013 17:00

Asking her to fo back and clean it, would be far more humiliating!!

They weren't rude....shit does stink! And the woman should have cleaned up after herself

loofet · 30/05/2013 17:03

If it literally was on the seat why would they stick around? Surely you'd just walk in, see it and walk right back out again? Then probably, after using a different loo, go complain to the manager or whatever to clear it up.

I doubt very much it was all over the seat, probably skid marks down the toilet and they were going overboard and being spiteful. If it was all over the seat the woman should have cleaned it.

NettoSuperstar · 30/05/2013 17:04

She should have cleaned it

ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 30/05/2013 17:26

YABU.....my sis has colitis, she was pretty much incontinent for over a year and carried a bag of toilet wipes with her at all times. No way would she leave a toilet in a stinking, shit covered state for some poor sod on the minimum wage to clean up ((when it's gone nice and hard no doubt ))

manicinsomniac · 30/05/2013 17:34

I don't see how it's possible to get shit ON the seat?!?

But, even if it was just skids, I'd still have cleaned it!

Remotecontrolduck · 30/05/2013 17:39

Should have cleaned it definitely. Shit everywhere is VERY unpleasant and she was right to be embarrassed. Even if you have a medical problem, you need to clean up after yourself I'm afraid

Ledkr · 30/05/2013 17:43

Why am I laughing with tears rolling down my face?
I am a grown woman fgs.

MisselthwaiteManor · 30/05/2013 17:47

It sounds like they were just being bitches, you wouldn't stay in a shit covered toilet, you'd walk straight back out again. I doubt it was dirty at all.

Sparklingbrook · 30/05/2013 17:48

I am a bit Confused at the two women sharing a cubicle.

WheresMrMonkey · 30/05/2013 17:51

I'm the same ledkr, havnt passed the toilet humour stage!

TheRealFellatio · 30/05/2013 17:56

I'm a bit confused. Why should you have said something? The second woman was right - so people do have no shame. Smells you can't help , but what possible excuse could there be for leaving shit on the seat? Confused

She was abviously reasonably able bodied and sound of mind so she should have cleaned up after herself.

TheRealFellatio · 30/05/2013 17:58

Whether she was disabled or not, she was walking, unaccompanied, washing her own hands etc, so she would be capable of cleaning the seat after her. If she knows she has a problem that means she often makes an awful mess in the loo then she should carry antibacterial wipes with her.

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