To want to go round and scream at my neighbours?

[AnneNonimous]

I won't, but I do need advice on what to do about this.

I live in a house that has been converted into 3 flats. Just me and 15mo DS. He is a toddler so he makes toddler noise but in general he is very good, sleeps all night, doesn't cry much. Has his days as they all do but I can honestly say we don't make excessive noise. We live above someone so I make sure it's not too bad and we get on with them just fine.

The problem I'm having is with next door neighbours. As I've said DS isn't a screaming child but whenever he does cry I have banging on the walls. Not often because he isn't loud often but when I does happen it feels horrible and invasive. I do not know the family but have seen them, quite old mum and dad with 3 young teenagers.

DS just fell over and hurt himself so started crying. Someone banged so hard on the wall a picture came off and smashed. Instinct is to go round and shout at them how dangerous it could have been but I know that's not the answer. How do I handle this and can I do anything about it if it doesn't stop?

You should call Environmental Health and report them for noise pollution. That'll teach 'em!

It's probably one of their kids.Maybe they are revising for exams and very wound up

However I would be seriously concerned at the wall moving from someone knocking on it.The wall should be substantial enough to hold back a fire

xylem I have to say this time didn't sound like just someone banging more like they were using something to hit the wall. It's never been as loud as that before

You are both NBU although your neighbour has the slight edge. There is nothing as frustrating as noisy neighbours. At the same time, your toddler can't help himself.

tenacity we are really not noisy neighbours. I don't have my TV loud, I don't play music, I don't have much guests. No parties. I'm not loud on general and neither is DS but of course he does sometime cry. But a baby crying for a little while in the middle of the day is surely not unreasonable and doesn't warrant such a reaction?

a baby crying in the day is perfectly reasonable noise

they sound like absolutely horrible people

it must be awful to feel that your ds can't make a noise in his own home for fear of these bullies banging on the wall

keep a log and contact environmental health

Ok, you need to go over and speak to them. That is not on. Tell them you do NOT want your walls banged on every time they hear any noise from your flat.
I grew up in exactly this kind of house and the battle with neighbours was ridiculous over normal noise. Don't do it when you're angry, but if you don't say something they will have you walking on eggshells and next they'll be be complaining when you use a light switch!
The amount of shit our downstairs neighbour used to complain and we really weren't noisy. It would usually end when after my mum had politely spoken to them and they would be unreasonable...and my dad then put the guy through a wall.
Anyhoo, speak to them, if the they keep banging complain to your landlord. Don't let them intimidate you.