... family, friends and strangers should keep their thoughts to themselves sometimes???
FYI my son is 6 months old!!!
These are some of the things that have been said to me recently
'you don't want to be too attached to (my son) it's not healthy for him' (FIL) 
'Little boys love their mothers when they are young but as they get older they don't love them any more and they love their dads' (FIL) 
'You need to leave him to cry when it's bed time, he will never learn if you keep pandering to him' (MIL, FIL) 
'You shouldn't carry him in a sling he cant socialise and he will end up too attached to you' (MIL, FIL)
MIL 'you don't need to go to mommy, you need to learn to go to other people otherwise we will never be able to look after you' (they have never been asked to look after him!!) (while son is struggling to get back to me, kicking and crying in the middle of a restaurant)
'you must be sick of looking after him by now, you NEED a break from him, we will have him for the weekend for you'... 'no it's ok me and DH actually rather like spending out weekends together as a family' ... cue buying us tickets for something so they think they have to have him... then being upset when we say 'well actually we don't really want to leave him for the night he is only 6 months old' (MIL, FIL)
'are you really still breastfeeding, is that even healthy?!' (everyone)
'Breastfeeding is disgusting, it makes me feel sick when you do it' (my sister)
'He needs a pension starting up' (MIL, FIL he is 6 months old!!)
and now for some of the things strangers have said to me:
Walk across an entire shop to tell me that my son needs to be fed and I am very cruel to not go and feed him, emmmm I did feed him about 10 minuets ago, he is crying because he is teething and we had to go shopping, when I said that I was told to go and change his nappy.
'Ahhhh isn't that a lovely girl' then they realise he is a boy... 'oh dear he is a very pretty boy isn't he' WHAT!!!???
sitting down next to me while I am breastfeeding (completely covered up)... realising what I am doing... picking everything up and moving away while repeatedly tutting.
So AIBU to think that people should follow the old motto if you don't have something nice to say then please don't say it at all, I don't mind people suggesting things but these things have been said over... and over... again
I'm exhausted from explaining myself all the time!!!