to think my parents don't seem to care about my pregnancy?

[Fairydogmother]

long story cut short

adopted at 2 years old and my parents already had two much older children. rocky relationship throughout and i got married at 21 but i now realise that was to escape home.

separated and divorced 4 years ago and met the man who is now my fiance 3 years ago. we live together and are getting married next year. we planned this baby and thankfully everything seems to be working as we had wished for.

but my parents seem not to give a damn. mom didnt bother ringing me for 2 days when i broke the news to dad (on the phone and they were never in). i invited her to a private scan on sunday as she always complains that i dont involve her in my life and she couldnt have cared less. it was confirmed that we're expecting a boy (the first in our family for generations) and all she could say was 'o i just assumed it would be a girl' . i called her today and asked her what dad thought of him having a grandson and she said 'o hes not that bothered'.

i managed to hang up the phone without bursting into tears but am i being unreasonable and expecting too much here?

congratulations on the baby I sort of know how you're feeling although my dad tried convincing me for 4 months to get 'out of the mess you're in before its too late' probably why he cant look DS in the eye now..
Concentrate on you and your family, let them come to you.

I'd say religion is a big part of this situation - they haven't even told some people I'm divorced yet!

My sister told me today that dad isn't bothered as the baby won't have the 'family' name. Really odd since I didn't change my married name back to my maiden name when I got divorced so baby wouldn't have had it no matter what!

I have to add that my middle sister is the one who seems to have caused most issues in my family yet she is seen as the perfect daughter for some reason. Perhaps I should cut my losses and leave them to it!

Zzzzz - I think you've hit the nail on the head when you asked about my expectations. I think I prob expect too much since I've never had what's considered a normal upbringing. I guess I crave what I 'think' others have even tho I know no family is perfect.