AIBU to feel peeved about this ......

[TooMuchCaffeine]

Be gentle with me - not been on here for ages

On Sunday we drove 130+ miles from where we live to the coast (me, DH and DS). Knowing that my cousin lives 40 odd miles from there I mentioned to her earlier in the week that we were thinking of going. She text me the day before and I could tell from the questions she was asking that she was up for it, so I invited her and her partner to meet us there. She text "I am thinking along the same lines, but (partner's name) not that spontaneous so we will see". i phoned her and more or less arranged to meet her in Brighton.

Anyway on the day as I was hurtling on the M25, she text that she was "not sure about our plans for today, enjoy Brighton". I just assumed from that she wasn't going as she had mentioned how crowded it would be and traffic, etc, etc. We had a great day there despite the fact they did not come. We stayed in text contact that day and she said they had done a lot of gardening that day but nothing else. I told her we had a great day.

So imagine my surprise yesterday (Monday) when she texts me and says "We are in Brighton today! We are going to have a coffee and just about to go on the pier" WTF? So I texted back "Oh. I don't know what to say since there just yesterday and invited you and you blew us out. Will try not to feel offended". She has not responded.

But I do feel offended - so AIBU?

Yes DontmindifIdo ... those were my sentiments exactly - hence my arsey text. That is why I waver between feeling IABU and IANBU.

And you are right, he is a bit odd. I suspect he caved in because he could not justify not driving 40 her the miles to Brighton when we were willing to drive 130 miles to get there..... DH and I think there was a bit of one-upmanship going on, on his part mainly.

Also .... I find it hard to apologise for my original text - I feel I was honest and stand by it - but I can see how other people might have a different opinion and I accept that too.

Well done for texting her back. I've got into a few similar scrapes with texts/emails too. I think a lot depends on your mood as to how you read the messages!!

I'd have replied to your original text - I'd have told you to fuck off! Sorry. But I would.

No need to apologise - it is what it is!