WIBU to say something the next time this man thoughtless/rude/ignorant. whatever?
lolaflores · 27/05/2013 15:19
Have just joined a group that is long established and from what I can tell, has a membership of mostly older people. Put it this way, I am amongst the youth at aged 45. Also, quite a "comfortable" group, all know each other for years etc.
The other day went to a talk about an issue mostly related to women. One older gentleman pipes up
"Well, I witnessed a moment of hope for western men the other day. An asian neighbour supervising his wife cutting the lawn with shears"!
He gave a punch in the air and a whoop.
He is probably in his late 70's or early 80's. He made various other comments in a similar vein throughout the evening.
GIven that I am a pup just in the door, do I;
a) keep me mouth shut and not start stirring
b) pull him on it the next time
c) ask the chairman of the group to have a word in general or something.
lolaflores · 27/05/2013 15:41
I would be in a party of one I think. but nothing new there. There also followed a lively discussion on Islam. This was the day after the Woolwich incident and it occured to me that there is still so much work to do on making people see each others points of view or even lives. I am sure if I do say something. it will be PC gone mad or what have you. But, do we simply let older people away cos they are older and its not worth the fuss, which is what I thought. then I got a bit pissed of with myself for letting it pass. One other woman was shaking her head and the rest of them ignored him largely....
what if he has alzheimers or soemthing?
Hubb · 27/05/2013 17:48
I always feel awful in that situation too if I have let something pass. I think u always regret not saying anything but if you had spoken up, even if it was awkward, you would be glad of it in the end.
I like the "what do you mean" suggestion haha!
I really think being silent is like being complicit, it allows these things to continue. Easier said than done, but you know you can do it!
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