to be sick of this but not know what to do?

[wannabedomesticgoddess]

DD1 arrived back from her dads. Beautiful day here, I asked her did she have a nice day.

She said no. It was boring. She couldnt go outside because Dad and P didnt have suncream. Then she goes on to say that they put suncream on the kitten before it went outside. Does cat suncream even exist?

This is two months after he reduced his monthly CM by £40. When I went to get DD the cat had a cone on. So had obviously been neutered. With what should be money for his child.

The last four months CM has been lower than we agreed. Its only £100 to start. Its been down by £40 twice and £20 twice. He has her two nights.

AIBU to think that if you cannot afford your own child you shouldnt get a new kitten?

AIBU to be annoyed that he cannot even buy her suncream, yet phoned SS on me because she was wearing odd socks one day.

And wtf do I do? Just suck it up and accept that I will forever do all the work but only get half the credit? Accept that the one day a year he takes her to funky monkeys is raved about but the days out and nice things I do weekly dont matter?

know who? the cat?

yes - I get the odd comment from ex's mum - but I just see it that in her eyes he'll always be the little boy she loved to pieces, and will find it much harder to admit to herself he's not all he should be now he's grown up.

You sound like you're doing great. A friend advised me never to get into those conversations moaning about your ex - it has been hard, but I tried to stick to it, and it really is paying off now - In terms of my stress levels - he barely figures in my life now apart from handovers - I'm polite but not raving about him to our children.... I save all the moaning for friends

No, his partner.

:o tbh DP and I have been laughing at the idea of a suncreamed cat. Thats responsible pet ownership. Pity about the child...

Sometimes you have to put a bit of sun cream on kittens noses and maybe ears if they are pink, you don't smother the whole cat in it

I think with all this kind of stuff all you can do is try to rise above it, not let it niggle you and do the best for your DD when she's with you.

My Ex doesn't pay me a penny, never has and has quite openly said he never will. His earnings on paper are only £4k a year so there's no chance of me getting any money out of him. The DC have to sleep on the floor when they visit him, get fed crap and despite having a car (I don't) he never takes them anywhere but the cinema. They haven't had a day out with him for at least 2 years, possibly longer. He's driving round in a 2 year old BMW he paid cash for. I have over the years learned to ignore it, and now just try not to ask the DC too much about what they do when they're there.

And I totally agree with distancing yourself and not sweating the small stuff, because while you're in the right it's also you who is the only one getting stressed and upset

You can use human sunscreen on a cat- i know this because our white kittens ears would always burn and the vet suggested factor 50 and laughed when we asked 'is that sunscreen just for cats' and said that was a rip off and that all human sunscreen had been animal tested back when the first ever line was made.

YANBU, at all, your poor daughter. I would imagine once poor kitten becomes a cat he won't be all that interested, here's hoping his partner will. I've found people that 'drop' their responsibilities to take on others often drop them soon enough.

soured

Your ex is pulling a fast one on you unless he has huge csa arrears the max they can take off him is 20% ( if more than 1 child) they also do variations to account for the nrp's contact travel.

Laughing so hard at the sun cream on the cat! My cats would scratch your eyes out if you tried that!

As for your poor daughter, maybe you could pop a bottle of sun cream in her bag and mention to her father that she was bored today.