to hate DP inviting his friends over without telling me?

[ClodiaF]

Ok, sometimes he does tell me but not until the day they arrive. I feel all invaded and like I need to run away and hide. Most of them are fine but they're not my friends and I kind of resent the intrusion, especially in the evenings which I feel is 'our time'. I think he should at least ask me if it's ok first.

Do you agree or am I just being all mean and inhospitable? Wish I could become more easy-going and sociable generally but I'm afraid the leopard won't change its spots!

It is surely polite to ask if its okay before inviting someone over. I would check with my DH before inviting someone over just incase we had plans.

Yanbu. I would hate not knowing who was coming when. He's being unreasonable.

No I would hate that as well, even my teenagers have to ask/tell me if their friends are going over. I like to make sure house if tidy and we have food/drinks for everyone. Sometimes I just don't want to be sociable.

YANBU it's very rude to do that IMO

Rude.
At least give you 24 hrs notice or ASK!
It's your home too. How would he feel if your mates/mother kept just turning up?

It does sound like its more than just the not telling you first.

I feel all invaded and like I need to run away and hide. Most of them are fine but they're not my friends and I kind of resent the intrusion, especially in the evenings which I feel is 'our time

The above sounds like it would still be an issue even if he told you a month in advance.

yanbu. I had the same conversation with my DP. it is really rude.

I would want to know how far in advance He knew, i.e. is he very spontaneous/impulsive and just invited them over on the day/an hour ago? If so it will be more tricky to gain notice...

I have a similar issue, I only find out that my OH is visiting a friend in Leeds at the weekend when, on Thursday/Friday night I ask him 'What shall we do this weekend?' and he Tells me what he's doing. I'm left thinking wtf, when would you have actually told me had I not asked?!!! But my OH had arranged it with this particular friend (who I despise) for weeks...