AIBU?
To be upset my dad seems really old and not the person I remember
goodiegoodieyumyum · 24/05/2013 19:31
I last saw my dad 6 months ago and before that it was five years as he lives in Australia and having babies put a stop to expensive trips home for a while.
I don't know if it was just the jet lag but he looked so much older than he did 6 months ago. I didn't believe it when my sister told me he can't walk very far and gets breathless, I think I hate getting older as it means the people you love also get older.
kilmuir · 24/05/2013 20:33
Sounds like my father in law. he is nudging 80 and his physical health has deteriorated a lot in last 5 years. Not helped by fact he refuses to go and see his GP.
you are right, I still see my mum as being in her 40's, she can't be as I am in my 40's. ! she is nearly 70 but thankfully very well. But ironicaly yesterday she commented that she was now the oldest person in our close family network!
rabbitlady · 24/05/2013 23:11
its a shock when it happens and you see them regularly. it must be much worse when you only see them from time to time.
currently, my mum is doing some slow-dying. she's lost most of her hair and reminds me of an unreasonably pale, undernourished, baby orang-utan. she's been ill for a while and i'm quite used to it, but when i think of the woman who was my mother when i was young, they don't seem like the same person.
goodiegoodieyumyum · 25/05/2013 07:59
Thanks for all your responses, sorry about your mum rabbit, hopefully we will have a nice day to day and it doesn't rain. Hopefully a good night sleep helped him to feel a bit better today, don't think my very noisy excited daughter helped too much with his jet lag yesterday.
minouminou · 25/05/2013 08:19
In our family we age very well in every respect, but will at some point by the heart attack that statins, exercise and a low-cholesterol diet have been staving off since our teens.
It'll be in our sixties or seventies....there's been a warning shot across the bow for my mother recently.
OP....put it down to jet lag for now, enjoy the visit, and resolve to see your dad more frequently if you can. Even if it means meeting halfway and booking a cheapie villa/hotel package for a week.
ClairesTravellingCircus · 25/05/2013 08:57
I know what you mean, I see my mum every 2-3 months but in the last couple of years she has been slowly becoming old... Not so much physically but getting a lot more set in her ways, repeating the same stuff, looking with suspicion at anything new.. She IS becoming a different person and I find it so sad.
goodiegoodieyumyum · 25/05/2013 15:31
Have had a lovely day so far today, he is resting now something he didn't have to do 6 months ago but he looked better than he did yesterday, lucky he came half way around the world to see me and my family and not too much sight seeing. Off for a nice dinner later and then maybe a boat trip on the lovely canals of Utrecht tomorrow.
Actually my sister who he is seeing him next week pressured him into visiting as she didn't want to travel to Australia (he certainly wasn't interested in seeing the Netherlands where I live), in the end my mum talked her into going to Australia for a week for her 70th birthday later this year, she agreed as she felt guilty as it has been over six years since she has been home.
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