AIBU?
I know I'm being unreasonable - help me stop it!
Prozacbear · 24/05/2013 17:03
DP's ex has asked him to look after their DCs tonight. I imagine DP was only asked mid-afternoon and he has just told me via phone, so not knowing til now isn't his fault at all.
I am irrationally irritated. DCs live a while away so DP says he doesn't know if he'll be back tonight, as his ex may stay out at a friend's. That's pretty par for the course - she looks after their DCs during the week so DP flexes when she wants to go out, as he should.
I'm just ... I deliberately didn't make plans so I could have a nice evening with DP. Now I have nothing to do, will have to see if the girls are around, pissed off that I haven't seen DP properly all week (we live together but it's half an hour in the morning and then we both get back at 8pm and slump) He will be out with his DCs all tomorrow, and night, while ex goes out so the next time I'll see him will be Sunday.
I'm just sad and feel a bit lonely, and it's coming out in irritation and rudeness towards DP. Which he doesn't deserve. Tell me how to be less of a moo... 
I've just read that back and it's a pity party. Jesus I'm not that limp a piece of spaghetti I promise!
Prozacbear · 24/05/2013 17:42
Stepaway - they're 15! Well, around that. They're mini-adults, I'd feel bad that they are forced to be in sleeping bags because I don't want to spend an evening alone.
There are lots of things I could be doing. I'm not going to go out with the girls; it would end in drunkenness and everyone deciding that we're LTBs in unison, ridiculous. I have a writing project I keep meaning to start properly and never seem to have the time - here it is!
JumpingJack - really no. Ex would not like the idea of me in 'her' house. I suppose what this has made me realise is that actually his life with his kids and I are quite separate and should perhaps be integrated a bit more. Hmm.
phantomnamechanger · 24/05/2013 17:54
Do you ever do things with him and the DC?
If not, whose decison is that? How long have you been togther? His DC sound old enough anyway to be introduced to you and for you to spend time together, its not like litttle ones where you might not want them to get close if you thought it was not a long term new partner.
Be nice, so that coming back to you, for some together time is good for DP, don't sulk (!) but do have a chat. His ex is being unreasonable if it really is such short notice, presumably he would have had to cancel if you had planned to go out tonight? I can see why the DC need to come first, but he needs to tell his ex to be fairer about dumping on him like this, and he needs to owe YOU a treat too.
ah well, in that case do some of your project, put on clean sheets, light a smelly candle, and have a bubble bath with face pack and relax... do your nails smother yourself in the xmas body lotion, take a good book to bed and ENJOYTo comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.