Quandry:
Have been invited to a wicked-sounding party by a lovely mum at the school who I know a bit but not all that well. Invite is for me and DH. We've been separated for a while but have been trying to work things out so have let people at school assume we're still a couple (moved here about 18 months ago) and I haven't really got to know anyone well enough to completely explain the intricacies of the situation.
But over the past year our separation has become more solidified by his involvement with an OW to the point where I really wouldn't feel comfortable attending a party with him as 'a couple'.
But I think I'd really quite like to go to the party. Would it be rude to ask the mum if I can go alone? Would it be courteous to explain why? or should I just assume that as the invite is for me and him, then if 'me and him' can't go I just politely decline?
This woman is really nice and I'm desperate not to put her in an awkward position... what if it's for couples only? How can I let her know that I completely understand if that's the case?
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