To want my MIL to stop carping on about co-sleeping?

[gail734]

IMHO, if you give someone a piece of advice, and then keep repeating it, you are a NAG. My blessed MIL phoned me this morning, all excited, to ask if I'd "seen the news". I hadn't, so I wondered if I'd missed some major world event. She was on about the new cot death research. DD is ten months old and has been sleeping in beside me since about five months. I didn't do it before then, because I was concerned about safety. I was a bit of a wreck after the birth, on pain-killers, and sleeping quite deeply. So I got up every time to BF. MIL disapproves of co-sleeping and mentions it roughly every other time she speaks to me. She phones every day. AIBU to want her to FO?

In bed, not "in bad"!

How does your MIL know you co-sleep? Just tell her you've stopped and carry on. Everyone's happy.

Great, another thing my mil can stick her oar in about.

it's only because she is worried.smile and nod

YANBU OP, but you probably already know that.

What does your DH think? Can you tell him to have a word?

Santana I lied to her for ages, but she phones me up, early in the morning, and interviews me about PFB's progress. Eventually she wore me down and I just started telling the truth!
CookieLady If you have an oar wielding MIL like mine, pregnancy and the first year of a grandchild's life are a pain in the arse. To make matters worse, my MIL was a nurse - so is therefore a fucking medical expert to boot. Aaaaargh!

Tell DH to tell his mum to but the fuck out.

Stop her and say "MIL, if you really really think I'm trying to kill my baby, call social services, I'm not interested in hearing about a study focusing on slight increased risks to babies who are much younger than mine. Stop insulting my parenting, I've done my research, I'm happy we aren't taking any risks, but I refuse to discuss it ever again, do not raise this subject with me."

She's needs telling.

gail she did was worse with my first dc. Wouldn't stfu about bloody routines. When, after the colic had passed, she would phone at his bedtime every single bloody time even though we asked her not to. Oh, the list is endless.

I have a ten year old with Asperger's who regularly sleeps in bed with me. I doubt that she will still be doing it when she goes to uni so what's the problem?

You have clearly been ignoring for long enough. Time for your DH to step up and tell her to pull her head in or she'll be seeing less of all of you.

OP, you might like to counter with this UNICERF response.

UNICEF, of course

Tell her to read today's study properly. It is only relevant to under 3month olds. [whatever you think of the research].

CookieLady God, we should introduce them, they sound like kindred spirits. My MIL recently broke her own record by managing to wake DD up from both morning and afternoon naps on the same day with her fucking inane phone calls. All phones now on silent! I used to think that she was sweetly eccentric. Since DD's birth I think she's a headcase. My opinion of her will never recover.

DH likes to think she's eccentric but she's an interfering bat who always starts by saying "I don't want you to think I'm interfering but..."
or "you don't think I'm interfering, do you?". Yes
you bloody well are!!!

Sorry for the rant. Can you tell I'm pissed off with her at the mo?

My (otherwise wonderful) midwife practically begged us not to co sleep.

YANBU - you have clearly done your research, concluded that you are not putting your DC at risk & DMiL needs to shut the f*#k up about it.

My DS2, now 6 months sleeps the first half of the night in his cot and the
rest in with us. It's improved from all night with us & the screaming abdabs at the sniff of his own bed. Not worried that he'll still be in our bed when he's 5, like everything he'll get there eventually.

You need to stop answering the phone to her OP. I would kill my MIL solely through intense murderous thoughts if she phoned me every day!!