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to be annoyed at this text?

70 replies

SeeingTheLight · 18/05/2013 23:45

Asked friend if she would like to go out for dinner next Saturday.

She replied back saying -

"I am fully booked all through May and the start of June. Maybe later in June"

..... I just feel a it Hmm like I am trying to book a dinner with a famous person through their PA or something.

It's comepletely fine that she can't do Saturday but I just don't buy that someone would be busy every single night between now and the end the middle of June.

Aibu?

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DonDrapersAltrEgoBigglesDraper · 18/05/2013 23:52

YANBU, that is a rude response.

I personally wouldn't necessarily doubt that she is booked up (she probably doesn't mean every night, but maybe every weekend night), but responding like this is socially inept, IMO.

StuntGirl · 18/05/2013 23:53

Well, she replied in a bit of a twatty way but its possible she's genuinely busy til then. I'm busy almost every weekend for the next few weeks, and the odd days I have off are earmarked for blissful nothingness Grin

Sh1ney · 18/05/2013 23:54

People like this make me laugh. I know a few of them. Just say ' fair enough ' and don't try and 'book' with her again.

apostropheuse · 18/05/2013 23:55

She might presume you would only want to go out on a Saturday night and all of those are booked, rather than every night between now and the middle of June.

Have you had any arguments recently? Do you think she's deliberately avoiding you?

Is she maybe short of money but doesn't want to say she's skint?

flanbase · 18/05/2013 23:55

I like the 'maybe later in June' - lol She has a schedule

Juniperdewdropofbrandy · 18/05/2013 23:55

Ask someone else.

Doubtfuldaphne · 18/05/2013 23:56

Who does she think she is!

Picturesinthefirelight · 18/05/2013 23:57

I would be ( or rather the dc are) fully booked probsbly until July.

chubbychipmonk · 18/05/2013 23:58

Fuck her! Next time she asks you if you're free tell her you'll need to consult your social secretary & get back to her Grin

Juniperdewdropofbrandy · 19/05/2013 00:01

It's not the fact she's busy it's the way she's replied.

lowercase · 19/05/2013 00:02

I received a reply a while ago " if I haven't heard from X by tomorrow, lets do something "
How I laughed!

Agree with shiney, fade it out.

BreasticlesNTesticles · 19/05/2013 00:02

But if it's true then not much else she can suggest.

Certainly could have put it in a more friendly way though

lowercase · 19/05/2013 00:03

Thing is, if you are friends, you offer an alternative
I do anyway...

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SeeingTheLight · 19/05/2013 00:09

I like the 'maybe later in June'

I think it's that part that was pretty much the cherry on top.

I can imagine if I asked her later in June, I would probably be told to ask again in August.

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Leeds2 · 19/05/2013 00:13

Wait for her to suggest a date. Then tell her that you're busy!

meganorks · 19/05/2013 00:16

Its a bit of a twatty reply in terms of how its phrased but you tend to keep it short in a text. She is probably meaning Saturdays or weekends rather than every single night.
I have friends who book things in and plan their weekends ages in advance. I don't see why this is a problem. If you want to do something with her then get a date set in. If I got that reply I would just respond suggesting a date from mid June.

Bobyan · 19/05/2013 00:16

I think your reply should be "that's a shame, as its the only free Saturday I have for the next 4 months. And that's only because someone else has had to cancel." Grin

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SeeingTheLight · 19/05/2013 00:18

I thought the same lowercase

If she'd replied, I'm fully booked until mid June but how about the 22nd or a weekday? - that would have been completely fine and a total non-issue.

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meganorks · 19/05/2013 00:22

And why would you wait till mid June to ask again? Why wouldn't you arrange something now? That's how she has got booked up in the first place - other people have arranged to do stuff with her in advance.

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SeeingTheLight · 19/05/2013 00:26

Exactly mega - I should just take the hint.

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Picturepuncture · 19/05/2013 00:28

I would reply, 'June is v. busy for me as well. Give me a call in a couple of weeks if you have a free night'

Then I'd never call her again if she didn't call me Blush

CaptainKirksNipples · 19/05/2013 00:28

Agree if she had put a suggestion of another day it wouldn't be too bad, but it would've been very annoying for you to go through the whole

"what about next sat?"
"No I'm busy then."
"Saturday after?"
"Nope got plans then too."
"Saturday after that?"
Etc...

Think it was good of her to be clear at the start, but I would wait until she suggests a night

CaptainKirksNipples · 19/05/2013 00:32

Actually that is only 2-3 weekends isn't it? It's nearly the end of may now! Think you are being a bit mean, she may only have 26th, 2nd June and maybe the 9th booked. Asking to organise later in the month my friends would understand as it can be expensive and not a usual cost in my budgeting!

Saddayinspring2 · 19/05/2013 00:34

It's the maybe that gets me..unless it had a ? at the end so then you text back ok 23 rd then etc

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SeeingTheLight · 19/05/2013 00:46

There wasn't a ? at the end Sad

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