"I don't think I want children of my own - I'll adopt". AIBU to think that Leona Lewis should engage brain before opening mouth?

[SybilRamkin]

Article in The Times this morning. Surely if you adopt children then they are 'children of your own' regardless of whether they're home-grown or not?!

Sometimes I despair.

Sorry but yabvu

TSC - I can't see myself thinking anything other than "that's been misquoted to fit the word count" when reading that statement regardless of who was quoted as saying it. Even if it was gasp, Katie Price or Michelle Heaton.

If LL was implying that adoption is some kind of 'alternative' to giving birth, than she is U and the OP was not.

I have not seen the article, I just responded to the phrase 'children of my own'.

There's also a good chance the reporter has just made something up rather than write what she said word for word. My deputy recently did an interview for something related to my shop and the reporter full on made up a whole section, whacked in quote marks and attributed it to him

And yy to how annoying the phrase 'just adopt' is - people are clueless.

I know nothing about Michelle Heaton, I'd find it hard to place her in a line up.
As for Katie Price, she seems like a good mum, so I'd have no problems if it was a quote from her either.

TSC no I expect they wouldn't, but then as you well know, the public perception to those two is very different to that of LL.

Movingtimes. I'm not offended at all.

Yes you are entitled to your opinion.

But again, you have no idea of the personal experiences of anyone here unless they state them.

TSC me too as it goes. Katie Price gets way too tough a time whilst Peter Andre is much lauded as the most perfect Dad ever in the world ever.

Ridiculously pedantic OP

I don't know who her Aunt is and I couldn't give a shite either. My answer would be the same no matter who it was about.

That's my point - it's not worth knowing

The OP is being pedantic and that's that.

Don't assume that you're the only adopted person on here Moving, people aren't always keen to discuss their lives in detail on MN and I've been caught out myself before when people have a great deal more personal experience than they're lettingon. But you are perfectly entitled to feel however you feel, but not everyone in a similar position to you will feel the same.

I'm amazed that anyone would treat LL differently - do that many people know of her MN connection?

TSC - in what way do you think family adoption is different?

Just to repeat a part of my earlier point which I think seems to have been pretty much overlooked...

I would also not be convinced that those were her exact words... I have seen adoptive parents describing in the press how they "rescued" their child which surprised me as I knew them. They were furious as they hadn't said any such thing, and in fact neither had the reporter who interviewed them - the editor changed the headline to make it more dramatic.

YANBU

I was once quoted in the press, the words that appeared between the quotation marks had very definitely not come out o my mouth in that order!

And whilst LL may well be getting different treatment to that which Katie Price would receive on here about saying the same thing, that's most likely nothing to do with MN family connections.

I think she meant as in giving birth, obviously...

I see what you mean TSC - I have experience of both family and non-family adoption, in practice they don't feel any different but I can see that people might think they did.

I think, on the face of it, it is an annoying phrase.

But without the context of the whole article, you can't judge what she meant or what her reasons to adopt might be

Yabu. I frequently give interviews to the press as part of my job (i am not famous and it isn't anything exciting!). There's nothing worse than waiting to find out what's has been reported, what they said I said (vs what I actually said) and, what angle they have taken on the story (as it might be vastly different to what I intended when I gave the interview). What I am trying to say is you can't be certain she said those exact words. Even if she did, I am sure no malice was intended.

Another adoptee pov and I don't have a breeze about the poster related to leona Lewis.
I can't see anything wrong with what she said and I do think people taking offence are being over sensitive.
For me it seems like looking for something to be offended by but then again we all have different experiences so I don't doubt that those who are offended feel that way as a genuine reaction, it's just not one that rings true for me. As someone above said such is life's rich tapestry.