To think if your child is learning an instrument you should let them play it

chickensaladagain · 2013-05-17T21:00:30+00:00

We are very lucky that in our area music lessons are free in primary school Dd2 is learning violin It's her lesson on Monday and her weekend at her dad's so I reminded her to take her violin She told me she will leave it at school as her dad won't let her practise! Wtf? He signed the paper to say his insurance would cover the violin at his house do why on earth won't he let her practise ? It's only 10 minutes a day, surely he can put up with it for that long!

bigbluebus · 17/05/2013 22:05

10 minutes of a beginner on a violin is quite a long time - believe me I played the violin badly as a child

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chickensaladagain · 17/05/2013 22:12

Well I have to put up with it the other 12 days in a fortnight!

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Smartiepants79 · 17/05/2013 22:15

10 minutes of the Vile din, being played by a small child is a long time!
But of course her father should be honoured to listen!

hiddenhome · 17/05/2013 22:29

He must be some kind of philistine

How is the child supposed to improve if she can't practise

JamieandtheMagicTorch · 17/05/2013 22:31

And that is why no child of mine will learn the violin.

Only joking. YANBU

StuntGirl · 17/05/2013 22:32

While it will probably sound awful to begin with he should of course support her and allow her to practice. Are you on good enough terms with him to ask why?

SanityClause · 17/05/2013 22:33

I have two violinists, and never found it that bad.

The Bassoon is a different mater......

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chickensaladagain · 17/05/2013 22:35

Why?

Because it irritates him, just like helping with homework irritates him

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Hassled · 17/05/2013 22:35

When I saw the thread title I thought I agree, unless it's the bloody violin :o

MysteriousHamster · 17/05/2013 22:38

I learnt the violin. My parents never encouraged me to play. I wasn't great - barely scraping a grade one. But I do look back and think it was a shame they didn't bother.

I can imagine if my son was old enough to learn the noise might do my head in, but I'd hope that I'd want him to go for it anyway.

scaevola · 17/05/2013 22:38

I can think of few noises more likely to lead to infanticide than beginner's violin practice.

But she'll only improve with practice. Is there a cellar she could be shut in?

BeerTricksPotter · 17/05/2013 22:41

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hiddenhome · 17/05/2013 22:43

Oh, ffs, it's not that bad

Learning an instrument is difficult and time consuming otherwise the player will never improve. All this squeamishness about the terrible sound is a total over reaction. I've had a beginner violinist and viola player and I don't see the problem.

imaginethat · 17/05/2013 22:44

Of course he should but clearly he is a tool and I doubt he will ever change

BenjaminButton172 · 17/05/2013 22:46

I have the opposite problem. My dd plays an instrument, wants to learn to play it but wont blooming practise. No matter how much i encourage her

Why do we always hear these stories of NRPs not allowing their children to do things on their weekend like learning an instrument, swimming lessons, going to a birthday party etc. isnt it the child who misses out?

raisah · 17/05/2013 22:55

cant he go and do some gardening or household chores while she practises? That way he can get some odd jobs done and she can get her practice in without confrontation.

craftycottontail · 17/05/2013 22:56

10 minutes a day and she'll be a pro in no time!

Seriously I'd take it up with him if that's really his attitude. I tried to teach myself piano when I was a teenager and my mum's constant comments to 'stop making that racket' were really hurtful.

TigOldBitties · 17/05/2013 23:01

Violin was on my list of banned instruments, I guess he could just put earphones in but still I can sort of sympathise.

Are you sure she's got it right, that he didn't just say he won't listen to her or that she doesn't want to practice this weekend.

DS1 used to tell me of his woes at his dads; no sweets, hardly any tv, only water, had to spend time with the new German girlfriend. Reality was he had said no to a certain type of sweet, the tv was a bit unreliable, they often ran out of other drinks and the girlfriend was just getting on his nerves because she was better at the xbox than he was.

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for a while, and to not encourage a child is shit,

The reason that children that learn an instrument do better in other areas of education, is because they take away from the experience the lesson that if they practice at something they get accomplished at it, and implement it other areas of education.

hence the reason it is still funded in some luck areas.

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chickensaladagain · 17/05/2013 23:09

tig

Owing to the fact that when they were smaller I had to take them to another floor in the house to listen to them read as it was annoying, I'm guessing she has got it bang on

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SlumberingDormouse · 17/05/2013 23:57

I teach the piano and a lack of practice is the biggest problem I encounter. If your child won't/can't practise there is no point, even if the lessons are free - after all, they won't always be. Achieving a decent level is possible for practically everyone but always takes a great deal of effort. The whole family needs to be on board and provide a decent environment for practice. YANBU.