I went to see DD1 today, it was something i decided to do yesterday, i don't see enough of her, she is 22 and lives 20 miles away with her DP. She had a day off work today so i said id pop over and see her - she didnt want to go out, just wanted to sit and watch a film and do my nails, nails is her new creative hobby! Usually if i go and see DD my mum comes along too but i just wanted to go on my own - last minute thing, limited time because of having to fit between school run (big age gap). I would have quite liked to go out for coffee actually, but DD isn't much for that and just wanted to stay in her pjs (lazy cow!) - fair enough, she works long hours and is just getting over a nasty cold. My mum would not have sat still for five minutes, would have wanted to walk about etc.
Thats not the point though - i don't see much of my DD, i wanted some time on my own with her!
So, my mum calls and because im too much of a nice person a fucking idiot i told her where i was. She basically did a catherine tate Nanaesque intake of breath and started going into one. How she had a letter from the DWP about a meeting i have set up to act as advocate with all her benefits as she really isn't able to sort things out herself. How she is going to cancel it because she has decided she has had enough of it all. How the doctor fucked her up becaue she wouldnt prescribe six months worth of meds for her (steroids), she has since changed doctors because of this, after causing loads of trouble. She was going on how she is going to bash the doctor in the face - i wish i was joking. Then she rang DD up, crying and shouting down the phone that i think more of the doctor (my doctor - who i recommended to my mum because she is very good!) than i do of her - this is because i wouldnt kick up a fuss on her behalf over the tablets. She knows i am unwell (mentally) in fact, she made a point of telling everyone 
i got a card from her sister in australia telling me how she was sorry i was ill "in that way" 
So she is quite happy to get sympathy etc "oh LEM is so poorly" but quite happy to be the one who actually makes me feel ill in the first place, the only reason she knew is because DP had to tell her the last time she kicked off over the tablets because i was too ill to deal with it (had just had a breakdown).
Fucking dysfunctional family or what!!
Dont get me wrong, i do feel guilty that i didn't invite my mum along but i see her all the time, go to the town with her etc etc - i just wanted time with my DD on our own.