aibu to tell the next person who tells me that i must be naturally skinny to sod off?!

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my baby is under 4 months & i am sick & tired of people telling me ive sprung back into shape so must be naturally skinny!!!! no, far from it..... i havetoast for breakfast, an apple for lunch & a small bowl of pasta with peas for dinner. i also try & excercise where i can. ive worked bloody hard on losing my baby weight & want to scream at people im bloody well hungry & want a nice juicy cheesy pizza!!!!!!

Hope your appointment goes well today.

Diddums

Surely a compliment is a compliment? would you rather people tell you looked gaunt & ill,

Sounds like you're starving yourself. That can not even be 1000 calories & if you're exercising too then that's even less. Have you come here to boast about how you've got your body back quickly? It took me a year to loose my baby weight but I didn't care, I was too busy enjoying my baby!

YABU, some people are lucky to ping back to shape (I was one of them). People comment based on what they see, you've restricted your diet to go back to your prebaby weight and then are complaining that people are commenting on that.

Oops "lose" - stupid iPhone!

So all you eat in a day is toast (how many slices? and what is on it?), an apple and a small bowl of pasta and peas?

I am sorry, but that is not a healthy amount of food. There aren't enough nutrients in it, or calories. You'd even be better off switching the apple for a tiny salad or some prawns or something or an avocado, and switching the pasta for a bit of fish or some steamed veg. For a start, a diet of mainly toast and pasta is going to bung up your insides like bloody glue!

It really isn't about weight, it's about health. You will struggle to be healthy on this diet. If you aren't healthy, then you may find it difficult on a day to day basis.

I really hope that your doctor's appointment goes well and that your doctor is able to help you. Hopefully they will be able to find out what is the matter with your system so that it doesn't hurt and you will be able to manage a more healthy diet.

Good luck at the app, OP. If you are struggling with toilet you need to up your fibre intake. Veg, especially green leafy veg and 'brown' carbs such as wholemeal rice and bread and oats would be great for this, without adding tonnes of extra calories plus drinking lots of water.

I hope your GP is helpful.

Have a medal.

Helpful, Thebody.....
Being insulting to someone in the grips of an eating disorder is rather cruel. It might take A LOT for OP to accept that her food intake is not normal and that consequently she is feeling sad and low. I hope she blanks out the insults and looks at the sensible posts on here (Hec for example) and gets well.

Losing weight and BF is a losing battle because your body is the boss here. Your body will not let go of weight it wants to keep for milk making, no matter how hard you push it.

Reading between the lines, maybe there's a connection between your birth injuries and weight? Im thinking maybe if you 'look' how you did before the birth, soon you will 'feel' like you did beforehand too? It takes such a long time to properly recover from the upheaval of pregnancy and birth, and a lot of that is accepting that life is different now. You have my full sympathy, OP. ive just had my third baby, and i still bust my arse down the gym 4 times a week trying to get abs of steel. Part of me knows its never gonna happen, but part of me thinks that god loves a tryer!

You need more protein and nutritious fruits/vegetables especially if are breast feeding. You could also add some yoghurt for calcium etc. It is annoying when you're trying to be careful and people who eat absolute nonstop crap say "Oh you just must be naturally skinny" but I don't think you are eating healthily enough either.

The thing is OP losing the weight hasn't made you happy has it?

I was very very strict about my calories and obsessed with not having an inch to pinch before having my pfb, having a baby saved me from falling into the grip of an eating disorder and I relaxed my attitude to food as I had to go back to work when ds1 was 4 months old and couldn't have coped eating as I had previously done.

You don't sound like that , you sound gripped by fear and you need to talk to the GP about that, the fear of bowel movements and how you've become scared to eat is a good starting point.

Good luck and be honest with yourself.

Property.. the op in her op says she is sick of people calling her naturally skinny when she is not eating enough.

I have done this many times to loose weight. It's not an eating disorder it's a diet.

If the op feels she has a problem then she needs to go for medical help and not post on aibu.

She asked and in my opinion she is being unreasonable.

Not everyone who controls their weight like this had an 'eating disorder'

Some of us just deny ourselves treats to stay slim.

Have a pizza then, and some fruit so it doesn't hurt when you go. I found innocent smoothies a winner after giving birth as they helped the bowels move.
You'll enjoy you're baby's first year an awful lot more if you get this silly idea about being thin out of your head and work on becoming a healthy mother for your child.
More importantly, I don't know as I'm not medically trained, but does the quality of the baby's milk suffer if you are not eating a well balanced diet?

An apple for lunch and the same restricted meal every single night is an eating disorder not a diet.

Wow, sounds like being so bloody hungry is making you cross. I hope you're not bf'ing as well on that limited diet. Are you at your pre-pg weight? What were your eating habits like before you were pg?

It is definatly a fine line and can be a slippery slope I agree.

There is a weight which you should not go below op.

For me that's 8 stone but you need to work that out for yourself.

Go see your GP anyway.

It's not just about weight TheBody, OP's diet will be lacking in tonnes of vitamins and esstential nutrients, plus protein.

I can't see any good protein sources, if the toast and pasta are white then there are aren't many fibre sources either. Calcium is missing, vit C, again if the bread and pasta are white vit B is missing, it's very low in iron, there are no sources of EFAs. It is just not healthy to eat that way. OP will be making herself ill and risking long term health issues in the future. It's no wonder she feels fed up.

You need a balanced diet for your body to function normally and that's without recovering from a traumatic birth and BF.

As an older and wise lady, I am really concerned about your health.
That diet would not make your breast milk nutritious for your baby either. To produce the milk baby needs you have to eat more not less than usual. < very worried face>

OP, I had similar bowel problems for about 4 months after DS was born (he was almost 11lbs). I took Dulcolax every day and ate and drank plenty of fibre (black coffee's great!) and eventually it eased. I think there was probably extensive bruising in there and it took a while to settle.

Hang in there, it doesn't last forever.

Just to add, the 'baby' weight comes off itself through breastfeeding anyway. Your body uses stored fat to make milk. I am a long term breastfeeder, and after 3 pregnancies and large babies am about 8 and a half stone which at 5 foot 6 is fine for me. Personally I have never dieted or set foot in a gym. Love my pies, curries, pizzas and chocolate too much! DS is 12 months now though. 8 months ago I was probably about 11 stone.

Why is being called 'skinny' regarded as being a compliment?

From your last post about being scared to go to the toilet, the things you are eating are really not helping the situation. Everyone says to up the fibre, but lots of water is even more important as are beans and lentils and good fats, you could also try a probiotic. Hopefully your appointment with the doctor will help you today.

Your milk will be fine btw