Was with my ex on and off for 10 years. Found out after the first 3 years that in fact he hadn't been separated/going through a divorce/divorced, and was still married and living with his wife. Split up with him for several years, but never got over him.
Met up with him a couple of years ago, this time he really was going through a divorce (showed proof of it) and we gave it another go. Unfortunately (or fortunately, actually!), it didn't work out and I ended it last year. The reasons were that he treated me like a dirty little secret, wouldn't take me out anywhere, wouldn't go away anywhere, wouldn't stay over, introduce me to his family, even friend me on FB. Exactly how he was when we were first together. Yes, I know they were huge warning signs before, and I was an idiot to keep the relationship going, but I can't change the past and I've beaten myself up enough about all that.
Now, I have a wonderful, kind, loving, thoughtful, generous, caring boyfriend who adores me (why, I don't know!!) and acts as though he's proud to have me as his girlfriend. He almost boasts about it lol. I am crazy about him and feel like the luckiest woman in the world.
So, why does it bother me that my ex has a new girlfriend that he's introduced to his family, is publicly in a relationship with, has bought a car for, has taken on holiday and has bought expensive jewelry for? Actually, that's not the question - I know why, it's because he never did any of that for me and it hurts. I don't care about the 'stuff', it's the not wanting to be public that bothers me. I wouldn't want to be with him now, not for anything, but I still wish he'd treated me the way he treats his new g/f.
OK, I'm babbling now, sorry. I just don't know if it's normal to feel this way. I don't want to care at all about it!!