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HeffalumpTheFlump · 15/05/2013 11:16

Im pregnant, so have given up smoking. My DH used to smoke but stopped ages ago. He's having a stressful time with work at the minute (job is not secure, we are waiting to find out if he's keeping it or not) and so he's been having a few cigarettes at work. Now i've been ok with this because I have been using an electric cigarette that has been keeping my cravings under control and I understand that he is really stressed out.

However, the last lot of cartridges I bought for the e-cig are a bad lot and don't work properly, so I'm waiting for the delivery of the replacements and am REALLY struggling here. I still haven't said anything about him smoking.

He just phoned me from work, and whilst on the phone lit up a cigarette and happily smoked it. I'm now really cross. Hearing that has made me crave one like never before, I can't do anything to relieve the craving and am majorly pissed off.

AIBU to feel this was rubbing it right in my face and seriously unfair?? Iv been so nice about him smoking whilst doing everything to stay smoke free for the baby, I could really do with him being more considerate than that! He comes home smelling of it too and that's really hard :( I'm really cross, but I know he's very stressed out, so do I have a leg to stand on?

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FeckOffCup · 15/05/2013 11:20

Have you told him about the problem with your e cig, does he know how much you are struggling? If so YANBU but if not YAB a bit U, he's not a mind reader.


Jinty64 · 15/05/2013 11:20

Does he appreciate the importance of you staying smoke free for the baby. YANBU to be pissed off but you need to tell him how hard it is for you and ask him to change his smokey clothes when he comes in.


HeffalumpTheFlump · 15/05/2013 11:47

He knows about the problem, and he very much knows the importance of staying smoke free. He has been very hard on me when iv struggled, lecturing me on it all!!

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