to feel ashamed that I can't go

[idiuntno57]

some friends have recently agreed to do a theatre trip. Its a good play and I'd like to go. Unfortunately the tickets the organiser has gone for are £50 and I just can't afford it. There are much cheaper tickets available and I've considered buying one and just meeting them at the interval but I think I'd feel too ashamed.

Wondering if I should just brave the pity and go or arrange to go another time with someone who is more price compatible.

Talk to them. It's not on one person should decide for all if some of the party can't go. She should have discussed it with you,

Go with someone more price-compatible.

Are you sure you're the only one feeling like this? Could you bring the cheaper seats up with the group?
Don't feel ashamed, there's nothing shameful about being skint! Loads of people are in the same boat, especially at the moment!

Don't feel ashamed. I have turned down expensive things and been honest about it. Have others bought their tickets? If not could you see if someone else wants to get cheap tickets and sit with you?

There's no need to be ashamed. In my group of friends we've often had times when one or more of us can't afford something and it's never been a big deal. We've always arranged or rearranged something that everyone can afford. That's what friends do.

Don't feel ashamed. You would not judge would you. I have had to do similar things. I bet one of your other friends will join you. Go and meet them for a drink in the interval.

Anyway often the most expensive tickets in the stalls do not have the best view

Absolutely no shame in wanting your cash to go as far as it can. Love your phrase ' price compatible' .

YANBU.

£50 is a lot for an evening out, with other costs on top. I think the organiser should maybe have checked that everyone was happy to pay this price. I'm sure one of your party would prefer the cheaper option too.

I wonder if I feel a little bit upset that when I told the organiser it was too expensive she didn't suggest the cheaper tickets.

But the more I think about it the more I'd much rather go with someone I really would enjoy being with. Rather than sitting there worrying about what they think.

Thanks for the advice all.

Hurrah for mumsnet and all that

NOTHING to be ashamed of! Just tell the group 'I see there are some cheaper tickets which are more my budget at the moment so I'll make my own arrangement' I bet others in the group will wish they had spoken up too.