is she well now?
She died at the end of December just gone.
If she had been born later, when things were better, imperfect, but better, she might have had a much better quality of end of life, and a good few years to boot cos she comes from a line that tends towards making it to a hundred.
But she was not only mentally and physically damaged from the Ye Olde Days style of mental health care, like tying her to the kitchen table or ceremonially exorcising her (which it seems may also have involved the use of purges) she was also phsycially and mentally worn out becuase it wasn't til she was in her fifties that she got a proper diagnosis and treament and many of her symtoms left her vulnerable to emotional and physical fall out due to high tension or frankly dangerous situations.
Becuase she was older she was less of a priority in terms of bed and intensive treatment during the shit hitting fan bits. And we couldn't cope. In part becuase the law tied our hands to what limitations we could place on her choices.
Too little, too late.
Her body and her spirit wore out.
Ah fuck
Sorry, I girded my loins and finally donated her hospitial bed, wheelchair, walking stick, shower chair etc yesterday. It's made me leaky.
I wish she had been born later. In an age of modern psychiatry. She didn't stand a chance and that lack of luck in terms of time and place stole her life decades before she died.