AIBU?
To still feel upset and a bit confused about this incident?
Flossyfloof · 11/05/2013 23:52
Went out for a meal with some acquaintances the other night. Had a nice time and got to know one or two new people. Whilst I was talking to one woman, someone's Mum, in the middle of a conversation she said to me "You're a bitch!". I genuinely had/have no idea where that came from. I didn't want any confrontation and didn't respond at all. Later on, when she was saying goodbye to her daughter, I was right next to her and she said, very loudly "She's a bitch!". I still don't know what I might have said to offend and honestly don't think I said anything. This lady lives some way away but I live close to her daughter. I want to text the daughter to ask what I have done. I don't want to fall out with anyone but I have now been bothered about this for a few days, can't seem to let it go. I would really like to ask what I did and to explain that I think this woman perhaps misunderstood or misinterpreted something I said. I loathe the word bitch and am probably reacting more because of this word than if she had used another one. Please talk me through this!
Snazzynewyear · 11/05/2013 23:57
I'm not clear on who exactly these people are to you - had you ever met this woman before? I would ask the daughter but not by saying 'what have I done', as that presumes you've done something. I would say something like, 'This probably seems a bit weird, but I couldn't understand why your mother called me a bitch at he meal the other week. What's behind that?' Do that in person, though, not by text. This stuff never works well if not done face to face.
Flossyfloof · 11/05/2013 23:57
I didn't say anything because I was so taken aback I suppose and whilst I didn't like her saying it first time I didn't want to cause any unpleasantness (OK for her to say that to me though!!). When she said it the second time only I and her daughter was there, she was saying goodbye to her daughter and that's when she said it. I think I was a bit shocked to be honest. This happened on Thursday and I am still going over it in my head and it is getting me down, both the incident and the fact that I am still worrying about it.
lisad123everybodydancenow · 12/05/2013 00:01
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Flossyfloof · 12/05/2013 00:05
I don't know the daughter that well can't think of anything I can possibly have said/done to upset her. She may have been overheard the first time, I am not sure, haven't seen the people who were around since then. Second time daughter cannot fail to have heard it. It was late, I wanted to get home and I just didn't want any more nastiness. Bloody upset now, though, because I can't see any justification for her saying this. I didn't know whether I was making a mountain out of a molehill.
Flossyfloof · 12/05/2013 00:08
I would not have made a fuss in the restaurant because I just wouldn't. In other situations I would stand up for myself but in this situation I was a bit shocked and I didn't want to make things worse. Asking why she thought I was a bitch would maybe have set up a confrontation which I wouldn't cope well with and spoil the evening for me as well as everyone else.
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