AIBU?
Squitten · 09/05/2013 10:08
You can't help how you feel. It's how you act that matters.
We have two sons and are currently pregnant with our last. I know already that a little part of me will be sad if it's not a girl - because it will finally definitely mean no daughters for me and I guess I just always assumed I would have both.
Acknowledge how you feel but don't wallow in it. Go and do something nice with your fab boys. It will pass x
LaydeeC · 09/05/2013 10:40
somebody said to me recently (having had their fifth boy!) that they didn't mind it wasn't a girl as 'some people get nothing'.
I do know how you feel as I always wanted more children (but early menopause kicked in...).
it's natural to feel envious, and I often do of friends who had more than two, BUT you have two little boys of your own and, you can always ensure that you are a big part of the new baby's life and be generous with the cuddles!
.thecakeisalie · 09/05/2013 15:07
This is such a difficult one isn't it I feel unreasonable for wanting a girl after having 2 boys it just makes me feel so selfish. I am grateful beyond belief for the 2 beautiful healthy boys we have. Were going to start ttc soon and I just have the feeling we will have another boy, I know in my heart though we want another child and were not having another just in the hope of a specific gender.
It doesn't stop me feeling jealous of my friend who longed for a girl after 2 boys and had a girl as her 3rd. Also another friend recently had a girl after having a boy first. Its part of the reason why I don't want to find out the gender when I'm pregnant this time because I want a baby so gender shouldn't even come into it.
Good luck dealing with the jealousy its hard but we should always be mindful of how lucky we are to have the children we have :)
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