Mumsnet Logo
My feed

to access all these features


To want to let this friendship go

4 replies

Picoo · 06/05/2013 17:10

I've been friends with a girl for about 6 or so years, initially through work but she recently moved to the town next to mine. She's a nice person but has radically different ideas to me, particularly with regard to parenting. I think we have moved apart a lot in terms of our interests and ideas and have almost zero in common now.

I really try hard to get on with her but I find that I can't voice my real opinion in her company as she gets upset and very defensive if I disagree with her. I also feel like I'm a bit of a crutch for her at the moment as she doesn't have a lot of money and doesn't get to go many places, etc and I'm "convenient" as I'm close by.

I find myself getting wound up when I have to meet with her and am beginning to think of excuses not to see her. I feel trapped though and don't know how to get out of this. We're both on maternity leave at the moment and therefore have spare time to see each other - I'm running out of excuses at this point and also feel like a cow to boot.

OP posts:

pinkyredrose · 06/05/2013 17:38

Sounds like you're walking on different paths. A good friend is someone you look forward to seeing not make excuses not to see.

I have a few good friends, we disagree on.lots of things but we agree to disagree iykwim? That's how a friendship should be if you ask me, enjoying a persons company but respecting their views.

It looks like you're going to have to phase her out of your life.


quesadilla · 06/05/2013 17:50

If you feel uncomfortable about the prospect of seeing someone the signs are not promising. Maybe just let it slide a bit and see how she responds. If she asks you you should mention the defensiveness. But if, as you suspect, she is using you as a crutch she may go with it. Recognising that a friendship has passed its sell-by date is quite a good thing to do sometimes .


LaGuardia · 06/05/2013 20:09

I agree with quesadilla. Sometimes friendships do come to a natural end.


Picoo · 07/05/2013 11:37

Thanks everybody for your input. :)

OP posts:
Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.

Sign up to continue reading

Mumsnet's better when you're logged in. You can customise your experience and access way more features like messaging, watch and hide threads, voting and much more.

Already signed up?