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Anyone else feeling alone and in need of cheering up

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Notcontent · 05/05/2013 18:38

It's a bank holiday weekend, nice weather, and it's actually making me a bit sad. It's just dd and me, and I so wish we were having a BBQ or a picnic with family or friends. We have no family in the UK, and while we do have some friends, there are many weekends when it's just the two of us. We do fun things and dd is lovely company but I just so wish we had more people around us.

I am sure I am not the only one who feels that way. During the week when we have school and work it's ok, but days like today just make me feel so alone. And yes, I do make an effort to try to make plans with other people, but it's hard...

OP posts:

HollyBerryBush · 05/05/2013 18:40

Could you invite neighbours in and pool a BBQ?


Notcontent · 05/05/2013 18:46

Not really holly, I have nice neighbours but they tend to keep very much to themselves. Nice middle class area in north London but downside is that not much community feeling...

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Iwishitwouldgetwarmer · 06/05/2013 11:27

Me too. My ex picked our two boys up an hour ago as he's having a BBQ with his girlfriend and mother at his house. I'm at a loose end so am on here.

There's no way I'd want to go to his BBQ (not that he'd have me!) but could quite fancy a BBQ myself with friends but all the people I know have their own families.

I'll probably go and potter in the garden for a bit.


LetMeAtTheWine · 06/05/2013 12:39

Me too. OH working away and I don't know many people here. Those I do know have their own families and are off doing family stuff.


HollyBerryBush · 06/05/2013 12:42

Bank Holiday plans scuppered here too.

DHs mate phoned, can DH go and sit with mate in hospital whilst mates dad is in intensive care as he's having trouble on his own with his mum who has dementia.

Makes me sound unsympathetic doesn't it? I'm not because I know he'd drop everything for us too. Just bad timing.


littleballerina · 06/05/2013 12:46

no bank holiday plans here either.
dc gone to their dads (who'll probably have them inside all day), dp gone to see a friend for the day and i'm sat writing Sad.


Hissy · 06/05/2013 12:49

Me too. Ended relationship last week with Boyf of 1yr. On the anniversary too. It was a mutual ending, but damn it feels crap.

off to mum's for BBQ, but given her total lack of support in the past and now, and the fact that her H thinks it's fine to shout at me when wants to, it kind of grates.


littleballerina · 06/05/2013 13:19

hissy, why are you going? Sad


happyAvocado · 06/05/2013 13:26

I am on my own with the kids.
As my week is so busy with work nd commuting I actually cherish my days off like today, however it would have been nice to meet with some friends.
I have no family nearby and friends are at least one hour drive away.
I got used to it :)


LittleLisa78 · 06/05/2013 13:29

I'm in the same boat. No family or friends, would love to have people to socialise with.


friendlymum67 · 06/05/2013 13:36

Not I completely understand - am in the same situation as you. Just DS and me here. DD at friend's. I loathe Bank Holiday weekends :(

Have friends but they all have DPs, families etc. Watched my neighbours go out this morning, convoy of cars, obviously off out for the day, all family - felt very sad too.


flossieraptor · 06/05/2013 13:55

I get this. I now have a DH and DC after literally decades of being single. But I would welcome visits from single friends and their DC. Perhaps others would too, but haven't thought to ask.

I never understood this rule that families cannot be disturbed at weekends although I do get that as we both work from home for us w/ends are no big deal.

I have just texted two single friends and invited them over. Let's start a wave Grin


happyAvocado · 06/05/2013 14:12

Somehow when I first came to MN I assumed there wil be more socializing, as that is how I met some of my friends on other discussion boards.


NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 06/05/2013 14:21

OP...I get this feeling too sometimes. I have a partner but sometimes you just feel like you're missing a party somewhere. I suspect many people, with and without partners get this.

Have you heard of Gingerbread? It's an organisation for lone parents and they have some lovely organised events in the summer...also, The Women's Institute.


SoleSource · 06/05/2013 15:39

I am always like this. My DS is killing me


littleballerina · 06/05/2013 15:42

how do you mean sole?


oopsadaisymaisy · 06/05/2013 15:53

I'm the same. I could have met girlfriends for lunch today but have no one to have DS. He does have a father who lives ten minutes away but he won't have him unless it'a within his scheduled 6 hours a cocking week! So, I'm inside feeling sorry for myself while ds and his friend play on xbox. I'm pleased he's having fun. :)

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