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to think being blonde, tall and slim doesn't automatically mean you are beautiful?

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oharna · 04/05/2013 15:34

(Not saying that anyone who is any of those things is in any way ugly btw)

However I was reading the "do you think you're pretty thread" and quite a few responses were along the lines of "yes because...."

"I am tall and slim" or "I had waist length blonde hair"

I don't think any of these things automatically mean you are beautiful.

Marcia Cross is a redhead. Melissa McCarthy isn't slim. Mila Kunis is only 5ft4. All these women are beautiful (imo) and despite some not being tall, blonde or slim.

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amothersplaceisinthewrong · 04/05/2013 18:44

BEauty is in the eye of the beholder - there is no objective definition of it.
So some will find blonde, slim and tall pretty whilst others will find short dumpy and redhead attractive. Takes all sorts.

RhondaJean · 04/05/2013 18:54

Loofet as a brunette I can tell you there are a lot of men with preferences re hair colour...

CherryMeg · 04/05/2013 19:10

To the shallow, it probably does

So you think Donatella Versace is beautiful then?

littlepeas · 04/05/2013 19:20

There is this amazing quote from Roald Dahl's The Twits:

?If a person has ugly thoughts, it begins to show on the face. And when that person has ugly thoughts every day, every week, every year, the face gets uglier and uglier until you can hardly bear to look at it.

A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts it will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely.?

It is one of the truest things I have ever read.

ScarletLady02 · 04/05/2013 19:33

I love that quote from The Twits...Roald Dahl wrote some amazing things.

I used to be tall, slim and blonde...not I'm tall, not so slim (size 14-16) and blue Grin

Obviously I'm astoundingly gorgeous...and modest to boot (or is that modestly gorgeous...a but like an old boot?)

Tall, slim, blonde women CAN be beautiful...but not always. Beauty comes in many different shapes, forms, sizes etc.

IThinkOfHappyWhenIThinkOfYou · 04/05/2013 19:39

I'm very not tall (shortarse) and have very short dark hair. Not fat but too curvy to be thin/slim. I think (possible wrongly) that I am better looking now than when I was 18 and had waist length blonde hair.

grumpyinthemorning · 04/05/2013 20:35

IMO Mila Kunis is stunning, and she's small and curvy with dark hair. She's far prettier than any twiggy peroxide supermodel types.

It's not like it really matters, beauty is in the eye of the beer-holder!

propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS · 04/05/2013 20:50

Yanbu. Being tall and slim makes it likely you have a good figure but facially you could be a right munter. Blonde hair is neither here nor there (you could be rough or attractive, that depends on your face not your hair colour).

SantanaLopez · 04/05/2013 21:00

YANBU. Look at all the Spaniards and Italians who are drop dead gorgeous.

I don't think you are a twat if you know you are attractive!

williaminajetfighter · 04/05/2013 22:26

I think men turn at tall, slim blonde women but they're not necessarily the ones that men want to sleep with. As evidenced by what others are saying. Sometimes I think the interest is because the combination of Tall +slim + blonde is so rare.

However women with these attributes, certainly the ones I've known, seem to think they're beautiful even if they have a face like a bag of spanners or personality to boot.

Personally I would rather look like Isabella Rosellini or Hedy Lamarr.

As for Gwyneth, i dont see it. the thin lips, massive jaw and thin hair plastered on her huge head is not pretty. But she looks groomed and like she has money which can be confused with prettiness.

MiniTheMinx · 04/05/2013 23:06

My father always said blonde women smelt funny Confused I have a theory though, most men have a preference for women not too dissimilar to their mothers in terms of colouring.

Most of my blonde friends are single none, friends with dark hair are attached.

squoosh · 04/05/2013 23:07

I hate when it comes down to blonde women v brunette women. Really, hair colour is no predictor of a happy and successful married life!

neunundneunzigluftballons · 04/05/2013 23:10

Agree op we use the phrase body off bay watch face off crime watch for just such situations

MiniTheMinx · 04/05/2013 23:17

Hair colour is not a predictor of a happy married life, just as it isn't in terms of attractive. Beauty is subjective. The only thing I can think is that sometimes those very pretty blonde girls are treated differently as children. "ah isn't she pretty" that shapes personality and expectations. My blonde friends, whether tall or short all give off the impression that they "know" they are pretty.

squoosh · 04/05/2013 23:21

All your blonde friends? I've truly never noticed that blonde women are more aloof than brunettes. Especially since many women go from blonde-brunette-blonde-brunette.

LadyBeagleEyes · 04/05/2013 23:22

What a ridiculous post MiniTheMinx.

MiniTheMinx · 04/05/2013 23:35

I'm just saying that the friends I have who are blonde, seem to "know" they are pretty. I don't think they are deluded, I just think they have probably been treated differently on account of being naturally blonde. I do think there is a western cultural bias towards thinking blondes are prettier. Do I think they are twats, no. Do I think it makes them happier or more fulfilled, no, not at all.

threepiecesuite · 04/05/2013 23:51

I'm tall, blonde and slim and have the face like a bag of spanners to match. Lucky me.

clattypatty · 05/05/2013 00:01

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goodasgold · 05/05/2013 00:07

I find this thread to be really bitchy.

If women are asked what makes them attractive and they answer, does it make them less attractive or less nice people?

If somebody says I like my face/arse/legs/tummy, does it make them lesser people?

If a woman likes her appearance does it make her less attractive?

Be kind to yourself, be kind to others.

squoosh · 05/05/2013 00:09

Most people are quick to point out their perceived physical failings I think it's great when they can also point out their physical highlights.

There's enough low self esteem in the world.

goodasgold · 05/05/2013 00:28

Exactly, why not be happy to be blonde/red head/brunette thin middle size or thick. With a bad nose bad ass or bad skin.

OP if the women answering are happy what is your beef? Good on them I say.

yaimee · 05/05/2013 00:28

I'm.not sure it matters whether being tall, thin and blonde makes you automatically beautiful.
The women who answer positively to a thread asking if they think they are pretty should be applauded.
We are constantly judged and judge ourselves so harshly, to be able to say 'yes I think I'm pretty' and then list some of the things that we like about ourselves is something that we should all be able to do, and feel proud to do.

CherryMeg · 05/05/2013 00:57

If a woman likes her appearance does it make her less attractive?

Sometimes.

CornflowerB · 05/05/2013 01:05

As the brunette mother of a very blonde daughter I can confirm that blondes attract a huge amount of attention and admiration that a brunette would never ever get. It must affect your perception of yourself as a blonde. 'Oh my god she' s so blonde! Oh look at her hair! Oh she's gorgeous! oh you'd want to be careful someone will steal her Confused etc etc'