AIBU that my sister posting status updates of

[doingmyhead]

My mother passing away on Facebook, is just unbelievable?

Ending in the finale of she has "gone"?

She is 57, so not an immature teen.

Does professing her love and sorrow all over Facebook, mean that she loved our mum more. Will people think that?

But then I am probably sensitive at the moment.

yanbu at all by the way and sorry for your loss

Im sorry for your loss op and wish tou nuch strength in the coming months

My take is

Announcing the passing of a loved one - appropriate

Posting live status updates of your loved ones final hours - inappropriate

If I was posting something like that on fb I would actually mean something along the lines of:
"Please don't be upset if I'm cross/miserable/don't want to talk. I don't want to have to actually tell people face to face because I will probably cry. But just be aware I might be a bit over sensitive at present."
I wouldn't be expecting people to think I am trying to make people think I'm a brilliant daughter.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

People deal with grief in different ways. I posted a simple "he's gone" on FB when dad died. This is because, although I spoke to close family by phone at the time, lots of my friends and in laws are spread all over the place. I did not have the energy to speak to everyone personally at the time.

It was not attention seeking, just a simple message that I hoped people would understand. People then left messages for me on there rather than ringing, which was a great comfort when I was ready to read them.

pictish posting about a death on Facebook is not necessarily attention seeking. We lost my brother recently very suddenly. He lived in a different city, the police had his phone and laptop...we had no way to let his friends know

so we posted on his Facebook wall and tagged him so his friends would see it. We didn't know what else to do. I would be very upset to think that any of my friends would see my post and think it was attention seeking.

I'm so sorry for your loss

you can hide your sisters feed for a while and that might help. sometimes not seeing something in such stark terms is easier and i did that when my friend got pregnant as i couldnt handle the discussions about it.

its a v difficult time for you all

I think that until family and friends have been told its cruel to put it on Facebook.

If a family member has died the last place I would want to find out about it is Facebook