Did I do it the wrong way round.?

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Ok I really need a second opinion on this one please and apologies for going on a bit. . We have a weekend away planned leaving tomorrow straight from work. DH takes the knock with me tonight cos I have not spent any time with him. My night went like this. Straight from work to doctor with DD2 but no worries she ok and we home by 5.15.Gave kids tea and washed the car as it was filthy and wanted to look half decent for going away tomo. DH in from work 6.45 our tea on table ,kids bathed and ready for bed.Need food shopping for weekend and also to go to clinic for pill . Clinic open from 6.30 til 8. (necessary trip as on last pack of pill ) . Usually takes 45 mins so planned to go shopping after that and home by 9. Arrived at clinic at 7. Clinic busy and understaffed so only home from there at 10 to 9. Still need food shopping so,had to go supermarket. Home at 9.50 .DH angry said I should have gone food shopping straight after doctors instead of wash car. Didnt want to do supermarket straight from docs as like to feed kids early and give bath ready for bed before 7 as knew I had to be out sharpish to get to clinic. Usually if there early its quite quick.Please can I have your opinions.

This is abuse. You don't have to put up with it.

Wtf? What was he doing?

I would not put up with that behaviour.

What an arse! You've not stopped since you got home, and he's complaining that he got no time with you? I'd be telling him where to shove his weekend away

There is no way on earth I would put up with this. You did nothing wrong at all. If DH tried saying something like this he would get very short shrift and told to do it himself if he didn't like it. I don't tolerate sulking and moods either, I'd be threatening not to go on the weekend.
You should not have to put up with this, he sounds very controlling. You should not be scared of forgetting things or getting them wrong. Good partners realise the other is only human and we all do things differently.
I hope you can find a way to take a stand over this sort of behaviour. Be reassured it is not you in the wrong here.

Thanks so much for all your messages and I'm grateful for your honesty. Seems I'm not wrong this time. I'm off to bed now to sleep next to the cold shoulder I imagine. Thanks again.

It's nice that he wants to spend time with you but it sounds like you were s bit busy... There will be other evenings though, it's not like you're teenagers! why is he so stressed out? Maybe you need to ask him.

What response were you expecting OP? That when you were home with the kids you should have predicted what time you would leave the clinic? It looks a bit silly written down, but that's what your H is saying, and it's bollocks.