AIBU to think things are just not "nice" anymore

I agree, in many cases common courtesy seems to have gone out of the window.

YANBU. But i don't think its aggression I think its defensiveness. It's as though everyone feels pitted against everyone else.

On the other hand you get to see the best side of humanity with those going the extra mile to set up and donate to things like food banks for those struggling as a result f all this change.

YANBU-sometimes it feels like everyone is just out for themselves. Basic manners have gone out the window and it just makes everything a bit more unpleasant.

Yes, I agree that it is mostly defensiveness.
I am seeing less patience for people 60+ especially on buses, people are just ignoring them.
Im not sure what it will take to change this feeling though.

I'm not sure how your lack of financial problems has anything to do with your question.

But I don't think YABU. Society has changed in my opinion, and not for the better.

YANBU.

People are more judgy. Eyeing up what you spend and what you do. We were on benefits until last week and we bought some furniture for DD1s room (that we saved for) and I could tell some family were judging us for it.

People are under a lot of stress. Even if they have a job they are wondering how long for. Its sad to see.

I don't see what your finances have to do with other people's behaviour.

YABU anyway, behaviour on buses has always been vile, there have always been rude/drunken yobs ready to give abuse and there have always been rude staff when dealing with companies.

Well, I do agree that financial pressures are huge and people are likely to be more short tempered because of that. The constant worry can really get you down. Like you say, you're lucky this hasn't affected you.

People are generally less generous towards others nowadays and I suppose that's what you're experiencing. People will always look for others to blame.

I can't say I've noticed anything different and I live in a city very badly hit by redundancies. The coalition's policies do seem designed to set us against one another though and perhaps it's working.

I do get what you are saying, just feel like you are doing your best to be pleasant and helpful and no one else bothers. I'm especially pleasant to pensioners because I realise they may have not spoken to anyone that day.

I was at the local hospital after a trip to A&E, waiting for my lift and was directing people to the right buildings. Life does not have to be miserable. Some people thrive on it.
YANBU.

Totally agree. This government is trying to justify its economic policy by turning people against each other. More than 2 kids? A drain on the state. No kids? Who's going to look after you when you're old, the state? It's become very personal, and that is leading to people feeling justified in being very critical of other's life choices.

you are def nbu

the biggest thing I notice nowadays is impatience - impatient drivers, impatient people in shops/queues/escalators, impatient people when you are trying to explain a problem to them - everyone wants everything now and wants everyone else to get out of the way. I think many car accidents are caused by people being impatient and driving too fast.

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I think it depends where you are. My village is still full of meaningless pleasantaries that do nothing more than allow me to remain cheery yet miserable, a lot of folk here have been affected by the last few years of recession, and more generally the constant BAD NEWS headlines of recent years. I do feel though that actually our villagers put more effort in to be nice, it's like we're in denial to an outsider, we're not, but being nice is all we have to cling to at the moment.

I'm sure that if our village were bigger, and less familiar, clinging onto niceness would be harder.

My other 'home' is the same (not second home you understand, heart hom) so I think I'm lucky.

I have noticed random strangers being less calm, and when accidents happen, more rage and blame is spouted than is necessary.

Probably people are also scared.
The future seems more uncertain.

Counting your blessings can be a good idea anytime, but especially now.

I think it's a direct consequences of negative press in papers like the Mail and the governments attack on benefits.

People are encouraged to eye each other up and judge whether what they are getting from the government is fair - why should you get child benefit, why should you get free bus travel, how come you've got x and I can't afford it...

They use that discontent to push through the policy decisions that they want.

Whether or not you agree with their policies I think it is vile to deliberately try to stock up discontent.

I actually find everyone where I live very pleasant, but there are UKIP posters everywhere! I find it quite odd.

YANBU People seem to be more segregated nowadays. And I don't mean just race, sexist gender stereotypes seem more prevalent than I remember them being, different groups seem to be at each others throats for perceived imbalances

Stealth brag?

the biggest thing I notice nowadays is impatience - impatient drivers, impatient people in shops/queues/escalators, impatient people when you are trying to explain a problem to them - everyone wants everything now and wants everyone else to get out of the way. I think many car accidents are caused by people being impatient and driving too fast.

^ This and...

I have noticed random strangers being less calm, and when accidents happen, more rage and blame is spouted than is necessary.

^ this. Spot on!

I've noticed how abusive many people can be, often people you wouldn't think would resort to verbal abuse. Intolerant of other people's political views when really quite mainstream (because no political opposition would be a dictatorship, right?). The vitriol around Margaret Thatcher's death was just awful.

In the last year, I've had two drivers of cars behind me making throat slitting and guns to the head gestures, I've had someone trying to drive into me deliberately in a car and someone try to mow me down in a car park when I was walking across it - all traffic incidents, but probably the most I interact with strangers. I'm wondering if its where I live - drove across Germany and Holland last year and had not one single incident, went to Turkey (known for its poor driving) on holiday and hired a car and found the drivers calmer and more considerate than here.

YABU. There have been rude, violent, unpleasant people in every generation. Just read Juvenal (born around 100AD) who complains about 'the rude youth of today' and corrupt politicians and impatient people who cut him off in the street.

But it's possible that the recession has led to more stress and shorter tempers, perhaps?

I think you are right. I was only thinking about this the other day. I think people have generally become much less "giving" not just financially but also their time, patience etc.

I volunteer for a local playgroup and 6 years ago when I joined everyone took it in turns to help set up/tidy etc. Now we really struggle for volunteers and all the mums just leave at the end. They can't even be bothered to throw away their coffee cups - just leave them lying around. The same with our NCT - everyone was always really keen to help and now it's a struggle.

I think that when things are going well (as they were before 2008) you feel like you want to give something back and maybe if people are not worrying about jobs/finances they have the time and energy to do so - but now things are bleaker people seem to not be so bothered or maybe they can't face it. It's really sad.