About exchanging this birthday present?

[thebeastandbeauty]

My DD went to a party on Saturday.

I didn't really know the parents of the birthday child - the DC are in reception and the parents both work so I don't know them to chat to on the school run.

Anyway, I bought a board game in Asda as a birthday present which is the kind of thing I tend to buy when I don't know the child or the parents to ask what they'd like.

I didn't put the receipt in with the present as I'd bought a couple of bits of clothes for my DD and wasn't sure if I'd need to exchange them.

When I dropped DD off at the party and left the present I explained that I did have the receipt if they needed it (I wonder with hindsight if I shouldn't have said that).

Anyway - today I have had a text from the birthdays girls mother basically saying she already has that game, do I still have the receipt. I've replied yes and she's replied saying great, I will get DD to give the board game to her teacher when she gets to class and please could you exchange it for something else.

So she wants me to take it back, and choose something else for her DD. The polite side of me feels I should reply and say sure, what would the DD like? But another part of me is thinking...wtf?

Why not just text back and say lets not make this complicated for the kids I'll drop the receipt round to you

You could say yes, but you won't be going to Asda anytime soon so might take a while.

Or give her the receipt and let her do the legwork?

Gift receipts are your friends in future.

WTF is the correct response .

I would text her back and say it might be easier if you put the receipt in the mail and what's her address.

I hate this. If I were the other Mum i would buy my DD something and put the game away to be given for another child's birthday.

Cheeky sod, just give her the receipt.

And I don't think she should involve the teacher either.

Cheeky mare. I would just re-gift (ooops, hate that word/phrase) the game. I "might" buy ds a replacement if I thought he'd be overly bothered.

I'd give her the receipt or just buy something else and keep the present for another child. In future go with a gift receipt (or just don't offer the choice)

Yes usual the teacher would be .

Thanks all, good advice.

I think I will just reply and say, sorry won't be going to Asda soon so I'll tuck the receipt in her book bag.

I didn't know you could get gift receipts everywhere. For some reason I just thought it was an M and S/mamas and papas type 'thing' . Will def do that next time.

I'd just text and her and say not to worry and I will just send the receipt in for her, so her DD can chose something else herself.

The kid already has the game, Mum wants to exchange it for something else- no problem. I totally agree.
But to ask for you to exchange it for something else she'll like is totally silly! I would be tempted to exchange it for a gift certificate for Asda .

Surely it's a common risk of having birthday parties that you may end up with duplicate presents?! I think it's quite cheeky to expect you to go and choose another present for her child when you've already done so once. It's not your fault they already had it.

If I was in her shoes, if I had the receipt I'd just change it myself (and be a bit pleased at the opportunity to choose something else myself :o) or if I didn't have the receipt I would 'regift' it at the next party.

Exchange it for a screwdriver set or a broom or something.

Or how about a children's book on Etiquette? :o

You can always word it that you don't want to risk buying something else that they already have, so here is the receipt

Exchange it for a set of these

G'wan.

. If we get presents that are duplicates from parties, I whisk them away so that we can swap them. Then they disappear into the present cupboard, DC forget about swapping, and I recycle them for another present [evil]

Very cheeky! Just give her the receipt.

Arriving to this a bit late but i think its realy rude to do this. Its the thought that counts, and folk who fuss back to friends that there dc already has this or that game and can you change it etc, need to think about how ungrateful it makes them look. What's wrong with saying thank you and passing it on to another friend later. 'Friend' did this to me recently, AFTER Id asked if her dd had a particular game. No reply so I bought it. Her dd will be mobbed with presents after her party, and I'm busy, no longer have the receipt, so I'm not inclined to do anything except explain and hope she'll be ok about it. I'd do the same with my own dd, she's ok accepting that these things happen. They are 6, old enough to understand.