to dislike my mum saying to people that ds2 winds ds1 up and knows how to spell push his buttons

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therefore it becomes his fault and shouldn't be surprised if ds1 wallops him hits hom kicks etc etc. She tells friends relatives mutual friends everyone really.
They are 5 and 7. When it happens I clamp down on ds1 and don't put up with it. My mum will say ds2 provoked it by looking at him wrong sticking his tongue out etc etc.
I'm the youngest. She used to say the same to me. "you mustn't tease him you know that happens when you tease him" about my brother when he'd walloped me etc
Seems like history is repeating itself

that's us exactly life saved by lego! Ds2 is quite happy to play on his own. He is the same at school he's in reception. It's my opinion he isn't a windup merchant. Ds1 has also started saying I hate you and you idiot a new development if things don't go his way with ds2 he will hit him and kick etc etc. Sometimes for seemingly no reason at all I've started to think I'm a rubbish mum

what really annoys me is that in response to any compliment etc its oh he's no angel you know even when everything is fine at that moment so no need to make such comments imo