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To tell you all how fucking ace my MIL is?

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D0oinMeCleanin · 30/04/2013 19:23

Dd2's birthday is due soon. I've had lots of unpaid time off work lately.

DH just realised he needs a new passport. We still have all the holiday to pay off....

Needless to say we were not happy when dd2 told us all she wants for her birthday is a Kindle Fire. We'd have found a way but it would have been a struggle.

Dd2 has been telling everyone that it is all she wants, so when MIL asked her what she wanted she told her she wanted a Kindle Fire or vouchers to buy one. MIL has only gone and bought her one Shock She's even paid for three years accidental damage cover for us.

I luffs my MIL.

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D0oinMeCleanin · 30/04/2013 20:17

Yes it is very generous of her. She's always lovely and never fails to bail us out if we're in trouble, such as when our oven broke 3 days before x-mas. She also does childcare when needed and has never been nasty to me or the dc or made us feel unwelcome.

When dd1 (who is not DH's bio child) first called him "Dad" in front of her, I thought she might have had something to say because we had no children together at that time, but all she said was "It's about time, I've been waiting for months to be Nana" Grin

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superbagpuss · 30/04/2013 20:18

I have a great mil. we chose to live near my in laws and they are great.

she even took my DT on Sunday afternoon so I can have a rest as and returned them fed and with cakes they have made

and does my washing up when baby sitting

CombineBananaFister · 30/04/2013 20:20

I've just had a really shitty day at work that almost destroyed my faith in human nature (you know the ones) and read this.
What a bloody lovely post. I am chuffed to bits for you!! how thoughtful and lovely and kind. What a change from all the bloody miserable moany mil threads (some justified).
But this post, for some half-empties would have been - my DD really wants a kindle and we couldn't afford it now mil has swooped in and is getting it and we look like crap parents cos we can't afford it/she stole our thunder blah blah.
Good for you being lovely and gracious and good for your mil being a gem!! Grin
LESSON TO ALL WHINGERS-PERSPECTIVE!

MissLurkalot · 30/04/2013 20:20

Yay, your MIL rocks!

CombineBananaFister · 30/04/2013 20:21

aaarggh bloody xpost! so sloooww at typing! Blush

Floggingmolly · 30/04/2013 20:21

Bless her! Smile

IsThatTrue · 30/04/2013 20:25

Oh dooin that nana story is so sweet! She's definitely a keeper.

My MIL definitely looks down on me, but she keeps it to herself mostly treats my big dcs (not DHs biologically) the same as ds2 and although she annoys DH no end, she puts up with his moaning about it and is always there to support him/us.

Now my FIL, much much easier, he's a star and I luffs him lots and lots!

dubstarr73 · 30/04/2013 20:25

When dd1 (who is not DH's bio child) first called him "Dad" in front of her, I thought she might have had something to say because we had no children together at that time, but all she said was "It's about time, I've been waiting for months to be Nana"
Thats absolutley beautiful what a lovely woman and for herFlowers

Calabria · 30/04/2013 20:57

My in-laws live 350 miles away. They've been staying with friends 50 miles away and yesterday did the 100 mile round trip to have tea with us and see DD doing a sponsored run with the Brownies.

Thurlow · 30/04/2013 21:10

The nana story is lovely!

I like my MIL. We don't have much to do with her (DP is useless at organizing) and as she has some anxiety and depression issues she's not comfortable doing anything other than seeing DD occasionally and not looking after her much, which is all fine if that's what she wants. But she doesn't have much money but she always puts some aside for DD, sends her little toys and clothes in the post that she's seen, and the other day sent enough Clarks vouchers for a new pair of shoes. All of this unasked for. My parents are more active, live nearer and are more comfortably off so DD sees a hundred times more of them and is closer to them, but I hope we can make her understand as she grows up how much MIL loves her too.

smeeeheee · 01/05/2013 08:16

I love my MIL too. Am poorly at the moment - am 39 weeks and have slipped a disc so can't walk at all. She came round the other day, despite having just recovered from gastroenteritis herself, brought crutches she had from BIL's broken leg last year so I could get around, and offered to do all the housework, while making me coffee. What a star!!!

MusicalEndorphins · 01/05/2013 08:45

all she said was "It's about time, I've been waiting for months to be Nana" I love that! What a good hearted woman, you have for a MIL! :)

fryingpantoface · 01/05/2013 10:52

I love my MIL, she is just so lovely! Don't get me wrong, sometimes she does my head in, but I know I do the same to her!

We moved house yesterday and she looked after DS overnight, brought him back 6pm last night having already fed him and in his pj's, stayed and helped us sort some more. She is just lovely

LifeSavedbyLego · 01/05/2013 10:58

This thread gives me hope as I've got two boys. Grin. All these MIL sound awesome.

I had a revelation the other day that all my MIL problems are infact caused by DH never addressing issues. So mine is probably lovely as well.

wonkylegs · 01/05/2013 11:01

I love my MIL too as long as she doesn't touch my washingGrin
She's been a godsend with DS

pickledginger · 01/05/2013 11:21

If it helps, my DH loves his MIL Grin

JeffTheGodOfBiscuits · 01/05/2013 11:26

Mine MIL is wonderful too - I love her like my own mother and probably more importantly I LIKE her a lot more than my own mother! The DC absolutely adore her, she is the loveliest most fun Nan ever and she would do anything for us. We would do anything for her too.

magimedi · 01/05/2013 11:28

I am going to be a MIL in just under 4 weeks when DS gets married. So this thread gives me hope!

Wonder if DIL will join MN? Grin

PaleHousewifeOfCumbriaCounty · 01/05/2013 11:35

In always used to think i had the archetypical MN mother in law, and we had such a horrible start because she just couldnt let go of her little baby son. Fast forward seven years and i think shes great, which is pretty special considering i felt nothing but real hate for her. Shes a smashing granny, rings for a chat with me, and is even granny to my eldest child (from prev relationship). The kids love her to bits. Shes the only parent that sees how much in need we are of a break - she not only offered babysitting services, but paid for a lovely hotel for us. What a star... I think she finally one day had a lightbulb moment and realised how happy her son really is (and we also got married, so jesus wasnt frowning on us anymore ;) )

BobblyGussets · 01/05/2013 11:37

I love my DMIL too. We have had rough patches in the past, but we understand one another now and she is definitely "family" in the nicest sense.
The ILs are really generous with their time and money, really family orientated, so they are setting me a good example for when/if my Dss get married.

SanitaryOwl · 01/05/2013 12:00

My MiL made me cry at my wedding, she'd noticed how fond of OH my parents were, and pulled me over to mention it. She then said, "Well, if they love him even half as much as we love you, he's a lucky boy". My IL's have been wonderful - we'd had a really rough time in the run-up to the wedding, and they couldn't have done more to help.

skyblue11 · 01/05/2013 13:07

Soo jealous, I want a nice one, mine is rubbish, selfish I loathe her.

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