To think my DP should be able to come over late at night

[AnneNonimous]

Without me being accused of being a prostitute!!!!

I have lived in my current flat since January. It's a house converted into 2 flats and I'm upstairs. Downstairs live a couple (I assume they are a couple) who have seemed fine up until now. Not particularly friendly but their choice.

My DP works unsociable hours so often he will visit and turn up at 10. He does not make a lot of noise when he comes in, if he goes out to smoke he takes a walk so he's not hanging around outside their window downstairs. I accept there will be some noise of him going up and down the stairs but he makes no unnecessary noise.

Last night we were up late and he went for a cigarette at 1am. He told me when he'd come back in the woman downstairs and opened her door to look at him and shut it again.

He left this morning and at lunch time I found a note by my door saying could I keep the noise down before they report me to my landlord for 'immoral activities'. Now I'm assuming this is because I have a man coming in and out because I can't for the life of me think what else it could be.

Aibu in thinking it is not their business who I have in my house or at what time if they are not making any unnecessary noise?!?! I

[LondonMan]

So any never-married single mother would be a prostitute, according to nuns.

[edwardsmum11]

Maybe it was the red strobe lights....

[Bunraku]

Strange people. You absolutely must go and ask for clarification and post the response

[Januarymadness]

I am sorry. I know I am just rubber necking but I just have to see how this ends....

[Flobbadobs]

make up a price list and put it through the door
Write them a polite note explaining the circumstances and ask them to stop judging you by their own obviously very low standards...

[Jan49]

I think you should write her a note expressing your concern that she would only report immoral activities if the noise disturbed her. As an upstanding person yourself you would report immoral activities whether they were noisy or not. You are also concerned about the hint of blackmail in her note as blackmail is a crime.

But I don't think your DP should be going out for a smoke at 1 am because he may disturb the neighbours even if he is as quiet as possible. Also, if he often stays it would be better to introduce him to the neighbours. Otherwise they'd be right to be concerned about an unknown stranger letting themselves in the house with a key at 1 am, if it's a communal hallway.