to not feel like I can go in my garden when the neighbours are in theirs?

[KirjavaTheCat]

We have a 4ft wall along our boundary, so we can see eachother from the waist up when we're both out there. They're not big gardens, big enough for a shed and a table and chairs, so it all feels really cosy, and like I'm invading their space if I go out at the same time.

Right now they're having a barbecue. DS would love to play in his sandpit, and I'd love to sit out there with a glass of lemonade, but feel like I can't

Last time, I thought I was being stupid and went out there to play with DS, and they stopped their (previously loud and jolly) conversation with their friends and went inside after five minutes, looking really uncomfortable, so it's not just me.

My landlord won't allow me to install a trellis. Even if I knew them better, I'd still feel obligated to make conversation with a wall that low.

...Shall I put a trellis up anyway?

[marjproops]

itsnothing good idea too. Ill do that too. even a long bench so a place to sit too. and attatch a trellis/screening on it. mind you, false climber on that one, i dont want creepies crawling on me from a real climber!

[Lavenderhoney]

Go outside and let your ds play! Wear sunglasses if you feel awkward and read a book, quiet radio?

They probably went indoors for any number of reasons, wife swapping?:)

Anyway, chat about the weather and you could always mention a screen- I would in case they take offence where none intended. We lived somewhere similar and used to wave and chat, swap veg and they even let dc look after their rabbits ( well, me).

[LayMizzRarb]

How about a good old fashioned windbreak, like we used to use on the beach? If you have no soil, you could whack the poles in a couple of containers. Tie some bunting and solar fairy lights to it if you want it to look a little less obvious. Don't stop the DC playing out though, kids don't have self consciousness like us adults.