to think, that just because DH is doing something constructive, it doesn't mean I have to as well

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DH is cutting the grass

I am sitting on my backside fiddling about on here

Lots of huffing and 'are you going to do anything today?' type comments from DH

I did all the housework yesterday so the house is tidy and the kids are happily occupied outside with their friends so there's nothing that needs my immediate attention

AIBU to think that because he's having a fit of domesticity, I don't need to join him?

I'm perfectly happy sitting here doing bugger all

DH does it too. Drives me mad. Just because he is in a doing mood doesn't mean I have to be.

Men. Can't live with them, can't bury them under the patio cos you might get arrested.

You are doing something valid - Mumsnet is research!

And in this instance it has told you YANBU!!!

Ugh! This gives me the rage. Last time DH did this I went medieval on him...he hasn't done it since . Besides, half the things DH 'has to' do on the weekend are things that I classify as "fake" chores; ie completely redundant and unnecessary (detailing the car or edging the lawn for example) and fabricated purely for the purpose of escaping childcare and/or real more pressing chores I might give him, like hoovering or doing the dishes.

Men. Can't live with them, can't bury them under the patio cos you might get arrested.

ffs

My DH is currently mucking out our bedroom (clothes explosion due to...I don't know, really).

He said, "I will need some input from you, though".

He has been denied that Input.

The arse.

Why has what he is doing got anything to do with what you are doing. Are you wearing 3 legged trousers and are attached or something?

DH is ironing. (Pregnant ladies can't iron), I am watching the footie and mumsnetting.

Jury is out on who is being more productive.

I find if I'm super busy doing something then DH finds something to do, its like he feels guilty.

I have no such guilt complex.

But he'd never imply I should be doing something nor I him...but we both pull our weight, as it turns out, sort of anyway!

If he does something above and beyond (clear out some shed or something) then he tends to summons me to inspect and approve, but I can handle that. After all, its not terribly often

YANBU

My DH is a bit like this at times. He'll go off and do something that he deems necessary such as tidying the garage, or doing something to the car, then will get all stressy and keep barking orders at me to do things to help him. He thinks that just because he's busy the world should stop and we should all dance to his tune.

Pisses me right off

Complex number - sorry. It was a joke? You know one of those things you laugh at?

Not sure it warranted a ffs. If you didn't find it funny that's fine. No need to be rude.

Complex number - sorry. It was a joke? You know one of those things you laugh at?

It was a crass comment and just as funny and offensive as any other sexist 'joke'.

Har, har, har.

In your opinion

Oh come on Buda, you must accept it was a very sexist comment.

Anyway, I don't want to argue further as I am a big fan of cider and I prefer to keep on the same side as other drinkers.

I get this too. DH has just walked through from the kitchen with a dirty pan in his hand to see what I'm doing. He's loading the dishwasher you see, and I'm sitting down doing bugger all. It needs highlighting, apparently, that he's on his feet and I'm not.

What a baby.

I don't really get that it was that bad to make a sexist joke on a thread joking about a particular aspect of some men's behavior that is irritating.

I laugh at some jokes aimed at women too if they are funny and in the right context. We have to be able to laugh at each other surely? Life would be very boring otherwise!

I'm not even that keen on cider tbh! Although DH has just had a cider while cooking.

Cheers!

Well, DH is now playing stupid games on the PC

And I'm sort of ironing school shirts.

Clearly, this is fine, as he didn't see the funny side of me just asking him if he was planning on doing anything tonight

I might accidently turn the router off

Hope you're MNetting on your phone then!

Of course

While hiding upstairs 'ironing'

I thought your joke was hilarious, Cider. In fact, it made me cackle out loud, thus eliciting the hairy eyeball from DH .

YANBU

My dh is kind of the same except instead of doing jobs he goes off on bike rides leaving at stupid o clock in the morning. He comes back and I'm still in pj's and he asks why I haven't done the washing up or hoovered etc. Ummm....you were doing your hobby so I was doing mine. Sitting on my arse eating toast is a hobby. It counts. This was pre-children.
Now we have 3 kids. Yesterday he was faffing upstairs sorting stuff then strops at me because I haven't packed the swimming bag, the baby changing bag and toddler's overnight bag. Because I was looking after the kids!! He happily leaves babies to cry and toddler to wreck stuff in order "to get stuff done" whereas I fit stuff in around them all being good/asleep. Apparently I'm supposed to let babies cry and toddler beat/poke/scratch them so I can get things done too. He did grow up in a house where his mum ironed undies though....that makes me think there must have been a lot to "get done" there.

you should have pretended to snore a little when he walked in...

sounds like a clown to me :(

YANBU
I have a can't chill and watch TV, read a book or sit through s film DH and it drives me nuts.