My first child was 5 weeks early and very small because I had IUGR. He was in SCBU. Bounty lady came to my single room every day (burst in on me without knocking every time, once whilst I was expressing) and expressed disappointment "why are you still here?" kind of comments. I had to stay in for a fortnight because I had deranged liver function. I was shell shocked and distraught and only managed a weak "well I am still ill".
With my daughter who thankfully was an uncomplicated birth I told the bounty lady I wasn't interested (a different one in a different hospital). Was on a normal postnatal ward this time but she also showed no respect for my privacy, pulling aside the curtains without asking. I had to really stand up to her to make her go away. Then a bit later she came back and demanded to know whether the baby was my first. I was so shocked I told her and was really pissed off with myself for telling her anything.
I don't like them and the stories about bereaved parents getting reminders are so sad.