A new girl started in my DD's class in November. We have invited her home, had sleepovers, taken her out all to help her integrate into the class. And she is lovely but, comes with baggage:
She has a 14 year old sister. The mother wanted them to have singing lessons like my daughter so I asked her teacher and she has agreed to extend her teaching hours & take them on a Friday after my DD. Then I was asked if I could take them? Why not when we are all heading in the same direction. Then could I bring them home - so I have duly waited an hour on top of my DD's lesson and brought them home. And when their mother was running late (again) put potatoes in the oven and fed them. Meanwhile the eldest daughter proved challenging - she's often late out of school - ten, fifteen even 20 minutes, goes home on the bus when she feels like it - has no mobile - this involves me and a friend trailing round and frantically trying to trace her while mum doesn't check her mobile 'til after work! She doesn't speak unless spoken to, makes no eye contact, plays constantly with the label of her blazer, refuses to be touched, won't say sorry, her behaiviour could be described as rude and she is uncomfortable in groups. And her word is law. To me this all points to the possibility of autism. I am annoyed with her mother for not mentioning that I might find her challenging at times. Plus this week I had to tell her off for trying to open the car door when we driving along! The mother has now said not to have any contact with the eldest daughter whilst I am domineering and vindictive (I told her off whilst travelling st 50mph). I feel bad whilst DD and youngest child are great friends. I have no idea how it will pan out - but, feel hurt and used.