I moved out of home at 15, my mum had thrown me out several times from the age of 11 and I slept rough. I was a mistake, the reason she was forced to stay with my dad etc - she hated me and made my life a misery in return for my arrival ruining hers. My dad used to work away to avoid her and her behaviour deteriorated until one day she tried to stab me. Eventually she was diagnosed as being bipolar and sectioned. That was when I was 14, she came home on medication and pretty much just slept for a couple of months before deciding not to take them anymore. She became very nasty to me again (in private, never public) and I moved out at 15. I had no contact with her until I was 20 and bumped into her. I was six months pregnant with DD1 and she told me bump was too small and I'd probably lose it. Fast forward 3 years and my sister gave her my address so she could write to me - I now live a few hours away. She asked how DD and I was but proceeded to write several pages about her and how tough life is for her (despite getting over 100k in the eventual divorce from my dad) and there was never any apology for abusing/hurting/throwing me out etc nor asking how I survived etc. I wrote a couple of letters back but she was so self absorbed it seemed pointless. I never had a good relationship with her, there are no happy memories and I have no expectations of a mother daughter relationship with her. My sister text today (over 2 years on from letters) saying my mum has asked for my phone number. WIBU to say no, she can't have it?